I am a stay at home mom and I think I need a break. I find that I am yelling at my daughter, being short with everyone and just really want to not have to watch someone every second. I feel terrible saying this, but I never have an opportunity to miss her...is this normal or am I a bad mom?
2007-01-18 10:16:03 · 33 answers · asked by Mommy to One 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
We always love our children but there are days we don't like them.
1. try to walk every day with your daughter...use the stroller...if the weather is bad....walk in a mall.
exercise will help lower your stress...you may even meet other Moms and lets's face it..Moms need Moms..
2. Remove all sugar, dairy and bleached flour from your families diet..
Eat only food that can spoil....sweet potatoes, brown rice, oatmeal veggies. fruits....
eliminate one item per week....watch what happens..
3. Try journaling....when your daughter is sleeping..carve out sometime for yourself....
4. if you can afford hire a house cleaner
5. share babysitting with a friend...and cultivate baby sitters.
take yourself out to lunch and a movie....
6. take a parenting class...this helped me tremendously...
I took a parenting class once a year for many years...
be easy with yourself....
2007-01-20 13:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by xmas90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very normal. You do need a break. Maybe you and your husband can go on a second honeymoon and leave your daughter with grandparents. When you come back you will be refreshed. From then on, have your husband watch your daughter every Sat while you take some Mommy time (even if just for an hour or so) and have lunch with friends or get your hair done etc. We all need a break sometimes, it doesnt make us bad parents. You realize why you are acting the way you do now its time to do something about it. Take Care and Good Luck.
2007-01-18 10:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No no no, you are a good mom for recognizing that there is an issue and that you may need a break. Is there any way you could get out for one or two days. Maybe get a small job that you like and have someone watch her. Even if your pay equals what you pay the sitter, if you can afford it then the sanity might be well worth it in the end.
It's normal to feel overwhelmed, but definitely do try to find a way to get some time to yourself so that it doesn't escalate.
2007-01-18 15:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No this is normal for someone who is feeling stressed out. And I know, kids can stress you out in a big way! Do you have anyone that can watch her every once in a while. Maybe your family or her fathers family? Do you have friends with kids? Maybe you can take turns once a week or so watching the kids so the other can have a break...I'm in the same boat but I have no one and I mean no one. I make his father watch him for an hour or so so I can go do something on his day off. you have to get a break sometimes otherwise it's hard not to be angry all the time and no one wants to live like that.
2007-01-18 12:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal, I work 3 days a week for that same reason, I felt like I was going insane, Now when I get home from work I do miss my boys, I think You need some sort of a break, find a moms group like MOPS some churches have them sometimes they are run through the county. good luck and know that you are not alone in your feelings, you have chosen to be a stay at home mom that is a really hard job.
2007-01-18 12:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by misheal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad mom! This is normal... being a mother is hard work, harder than any job out there. You deserve a vacation. Take a weekend (or however long you can get away) and do non "mom" things. And from now on, have one day a week that is for you. Take a spa day, go to the mall, or even just go to the library for some quiet time. We all need the opportunity to be ourselves without distractions sometimes.
2007-01-18 10:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, so normal. I am a stay-at-home mom also. And I have a waitressing job, Sunday's only, so that I can have a break f/ my 4 children. My hubby stays home and watches them so I can get out of the house and make a little money at the same time. And you are totally right, you never have the chance to miss her, c/ she is always there. You deserve the chance to be yourself, as well as Kayla's mommy, b/c how can you be expected to be a good mom, if you can't be a good you?!?!?
2007-01-18 11:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal! I felt the same way when I was a stay at home mom. I put her in a home day care 2 days a week for half days and I did my own thing during that time. I went to the grocery store, and just ran errands! Or you could also find another mom in your neighborhood and switch with her. Not children obviously, but you watch her kid on Tuesdays and she watches yours on Thursday. Then you can go do your thing.
2007-01-18 11:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by BimboBaggins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you are not a bad mom at all. You are just normal person who sometimes want your own space. I totally understand the feeling.
Let me tell you this. I work 5 days a week. But sometimes during the 3-day or 4-day long weekend, there will be moments that I wish I'm at work. At that time, I would take a little break from the little one to refresh myself. Even 15 mins break would help.
2007-01-18 10:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by emigirl77 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad mom - you are normal. I am a stay at home mom too. I sometimes get jealous that my husband gets to go to work everyday. He loves coming home to the kids and plays with them and is always in a good mood. By the end of the day I am usually pulling my hair out and calling my husband if he is even one minute late. You should get a break every now and then. Your kids would probably appreciate the break too.
2007-01-18 10:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by Pam M 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋