I'm very depressed being in the position I'm in right now, I'm a career woman before my baby's born, ( 3 months). Since then, I feel like I'm still not in the mother mode . Nannies cost a lot to hire, and you have to hire someone you trust, does day care handel someone this young? What is a mother to do in this situation?
2007-01-18 10:00:52 · 9 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know how you feel. Whatever you do, don't blame yourself or your lovely baby. There are mother's groups out there that can help. Most daycares don't take infants (sadly) but there are ways you can get out and socialize with other adults in your area.
Finding a sitter you can trust is tough. How about a nanny? Most have references you can check and if you find an agancy, you can take your time and find just the right person.
If nothing else, take a walk, get outside. You're already taken the first step to reach out by posting here.
Big hugs, and tears of empathy. Lawdee do I know how you feel, and I was raising twins!! (my mom gave birth, and had to go right back to work to support the family. I was a 16-year old 'mother'. And I wouldn't trade a day because I love my brothers so.)
You WILL get thru this. We're here to help.
*HUG!!*
2007-01-18 10:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I live in San Diego, California..... So like all places there are good and bad. That is just life. Trusting someone is a major issue and should be. I feel that the danger lies in the baby not being able to communicate if any problems are going, were as an older child can at least act out or gesture something going on.
I see signs everywhere though that say 6 weeks to 6 years, so I am sure you can find a place.
Also try asking a friend who has a child herself how much she would need to be payed to watch your baby. A lot of women miss having babies around and the offer may be something they want to take, that way you can ensure more trust (not in every case)
Good Luck
2007-01-18 18:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rosemary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of a 5 year old and a 2 year old and I also run my own in home daycare. It is a very difficult situation to be in. Some daycares will take on infants but not very many, and if they do they charge more. Also it's hard to find a daycare center that you trust. I found that in home daycares were better because they allow your child to be socialized with other children, while still being in a home with a smaller number of children which means more one on one attention.
2007-01-18 18:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by hasgr8boyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most daycares will not take a child until they are 6 weeks old. Usually any age after that is not a problem.
Do your research. Investigate a daycare before committing to it. Talk to other parents who use that daycare, see how they like it. Ask if there were any incidents there that upset them.
IMO Nannies don't seem all that much more compared to a daycare center. Daycares are not exactly cheap either. Have you looked at http://www.sittercity.com ?
2007-01-18 18:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some day cares will, but with a baby that young you have to be very carefull who you let watch her. At that age I would have a trusted family member or friend watch her. Going back to work could be just the right thing for you.
2007-01-18 18:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by arfiegel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're probably suffering from post partum depression. Talk to your Dr. and maybe he or she can prescribe something. Maybe just going back to work will work for you. try going to the gym too ,it helps to release some stress...I'm a mother of a 22 month old and I love him to death and I didn't get into the mother mode until he was about five months. Don't worry, you'll get over it. Many women suffer the same way you are....
2007-01-18 20:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by arielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country do you live in? I'm in Canada and there are a lot of options out there.
There are daycares that take infants... daycares are expensive too.
It's important that you are happy, because you baby will pick up on your unhappiness.... so if working makes you happy, you should work.
Don't feel inadequate because you're not happy being at home with your baby... it's hard work!!
2007-01-18 18:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a hold of yourself. calm down and enjoy what you have created. a beautiful healthy child who depends on you for every little thing. be there for your baby and stop thinking about you right now. being a stay at home mother isnt a bad thing and when your child is older and ready to interact with other children, put him/her in pre-school and resume your career.
2007-01-18 18:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by hammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most daycares only require that the child be older than six weeks.
2007-01-18 18:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋