Ok so my ex boyfriend and i broke up over three months ago and I haven't gotten over him yet. We broke up on bad terms and haven't talken that much since then. We have a few differences but I think that if we wanted to we could work them out. I really really like him. So I recently just told him how much I still liked him. He asked me why all the sudden? Also if seems like he is staying in between not giving me any signals as to wether or not he likes me back. Although I have a feeling that he does. I do not want to give up on any hope of us not being able to be together. How should I try to make things work??
2007-01-18 10:00:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um.. it's over. He hasn't made any attempt to get with you in over 3 months- you haven't even talked to him. When you told him you liked him, he asked why-- he didn't express his love for you. He's not giving you any signals because he doesn't like you. You think you "feel" he does, but that's just your own wishful thinking.
Give up. It's over. It's been over. He's not interested. Sorry.
2007-01-18 10:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in the same situation and it hurts like hell but there comes a time when you have to realize that there is nothing there anymore. That is the hardest thing to do is to give up on someone and something you believe so much in. I thought I would love my ex-boyfriend forever but time has a way of healing. If it is at all possible to be friends and come to terms that, that is all it will be I think that would be nice but if you can't and the pain of seeing him or talking to him is to much. You need to distance yourself. Give yourself some time to think things over and spend time with other people. The longer you don't talk to him or see him the easier it will be. I wish you all the best as this is not a fun place to be in and I hope your heart heals quickly.
2007-01-18 10:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know that you would really like to talk to him about some things that are bothering you. Give him a chance to express any of his concerns or feelings. And then you do the same. I don't know what broke you two up, but anything is salvageable if both are willing to work on it, but it takes two. If you really want him back, you will have to save face and bite your tongue and swallow your pride quite often. It takes time to get over anyone that you have feelings for and there is no given amount of time. During this process, you should spend a lot of quiet time to yourself also, no opinions or thoughts from anyone, because at the end of the day you must live with your decisions.
2007-01-18 10:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by ksfinney17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's soon coming up on Valentine's Day. Send him a card (nothing really mushy) and explain to him that you've thought about it for a long time now and it was a mistake. Tell him that you've realized that talking things out is far better than breaking up. If two people can sit down and talk things over, most people wouldn't end up in splits or divorce.
Try it, it might work to your advantage and you might find all new love in the old package.
Good luck, hope it works out for you.
2007-01-18 10:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often bad break ups happen for a reason. You have done the right thing telling him how you are feeling. There is not a lot else you can do.
There is always the jealousy card, but that backfired for me as it just made my ex angry.
Try looking particularly hot whenever you see him, flirting, smiling lots.
If it's not right, let go. Move on, and find a better relationship with out the big differences
2007-01-18 10:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is give him a little more time. If it was a bad breakup and he is not sure if he wants to get back together, then it's not really up to you. Keep in touch with him lightly, do not over do it, try to mend your friendship first, before you jump back into a relationship, and most importantly, keep your options open, it may be that he is not the guy for you.
2007-01-18 10:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes TWO to reconcile.
It's clear to me that YOU want to get back together, but he seems uncertain at the moment. And there really is nothing you can do - but wait, and see how things play out.
I don't think you should try to push the issue about getting back together. You've already told him how you feel, and now the ball is in his court. Doesn't mean you SIT around and wait for him to make a decision. Continue dating others in the meantime.
There is nothing YOU can do to 'make things work' nor convince him of this - until he is on the same page as you.
K.
2007-01-18 10:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ken K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well since its been a while.. I would try spending some time with him. Just hang out as friends and that way you can see if you really do still like him and he can see if he still likes you. Hang out a friends and then take it from there. Good Luck!
2007-01-18 10:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweets it sounds like its pretty well over
2007-01-18 10:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dont think so sorry : (
2007-01-18 10:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋