Because of the stuff you heard of them , I'm going to meet my boyfriend's parent's for the first time, and I heard that they are the pepole , that they judge pepole, about everything and they are strict pepole , any advice.
2007-01-18 09:50:14 · 17 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be your self... its nice when the parents like you but if you have to try extreamly hard to impress them then you will only put more stress on yourself in the long run...
2007-01-18 09:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you be true to yourself and not try to put an act on for them. Be yourself and of course, be polite. You should never, ever feel a responsibility to kiss up to someone's folks because if they are the kind of people who judge others in a negative light they will eventually find something bad to say about you anyway. Trust me on this I know...
2007-01-18 10:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either don't go, or Don't meet on their territory, or remember that 'No one has the right to judge you unless they have walked in your shoes:' and, 'Those who judge us automatically grant us the right to judge them.'
Be polite, be nice and accept any rudeness you might meet with dignity, you are always free to walk away and leave it behind.
Finally, Do Not Do as I did when i went to meet my ex's parents for the first time. I got locked in the loo (the key jammed) and had to be rescued by her younger brother who had to climb in through the window.
It was a little embarrassing,
Good luck.
Sash.
2007-01-18 10:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im my experiance its always a bit weird, the parents r nice but like 'check u out' to make sure ur not a 'bad influence' i mean how they are with him wont be the same with you. i mean its unlikely they r gonna look at u, tell u all your bad features, and worn u not to sleep with him, to use a condom if ur stupid enough to disobey and tell you u have to be out of the house by 7pm upon arrival.
tips for you would be act kind, be polite and dont gve them a reason to dislike you. be frendly towards them as if you were talking to a senior friend.
also think that they know that u will judge them n that they dnt want to embarris their son by being rude to you.
2007-01-19 10:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
speak when spoken 2.
try not 2 interrupt as these types tend 2 take that as the ultimate in rudeness.
smile plenty & after that little lot, try 2 appear relaxed.
ur insides might b shaking with fear but it'll go fine as long as u remember
they're just people.
b polite, follow their lead & have a nice time.
2007-01-18 09:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are going to be nervous! Dont worry about them judging you, just be yourself and be respectful and if they are negative towards you, just know that you tried to be nice and respectful. If you meet them thinking they are not going to like you, you may send off some negative signals. Make your own judgements, dont listen to anyone else about how these peopleare. You just might be the one they like! If not, no big deal, you are their sons girlfriend not theirs and if he cares for you they will eventually have to accept you! Good LUCK!
2007-01-18 09:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, try being very polite and speak the truth. Try to be pleasant even if they seem to be horrible people. Remember first impression always count.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 11:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Playful~Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
met my bf parents 10 months after we started dating. he is the one with the hang ups about his parents, they seemed a little shocked when i told them i have 3 kids ( his mums face was a picture) but seemed nice people. i refuse to be anything other than myself, which is first and formost a very honest person. if your bf loves you, and they are good parents they will like you too!!! i wish you luck xx
2007-01-18 10:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by rachealuk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are polite and courteous. Beyond that go with the flow, they are probably just as interested in getting to know you as you want to know them. Be yourself and relax. I've learned in life that as long as you are cordial there is nothing they can complain about.
2007-01-18 09:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by HollySmiles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyones scared of meeting there boyfriends parents for the first time but just be yourself and if they dont like you then thats down to them. your boyfriend obviously likes you alot and you must make him happy thats all that matters. goodluck
2007-01-18 10:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by katie n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Don't worry if they judge you, a lot of parents are like that becuase they want what is best for thier child. If you try to be who you aren't they will see right though it, just have manners, offer to help with the dishes... set the table or whatever.
2007-01-18 09:54:59 · answer #11 · answered by Em C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋