Hey I've know this girl for a really long time we've gone to grade school together....where in highschool now and very close...we have tons of fun together and laugh all the time...I really like her alot and i'm all ways afraid of being shot down and then that affecting our relationship knowing that she said no and i like her and then i'm worried it will get weird and our fun will stop.....Ladies what can or should i do....and if she said no will that affect our relationship.....any experiences or idea will help ladies thanks
2007-01-18 09:34:35 · 13 answers · asked by Super Help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Group dates to start with. Perhaps going to the mall, to the skating rink, grabbing a pizza, playing volleyball, etc. with a group of mutual friends. YOU do the asking, though. Don't let anyone else ask her.
By asking her yourself, it gives you an excuse to be her "host," a chance to discuss plans for the outing with her, and checking up on her during the event itself. Take advantage of getting to know her then and allowing her to get to know you, too.
By being with a crowd, you won't feel the burden of trying so hard to please her and the pressure will not be too great on you. Besides, if you find out that she's really not as much fun to be with or ever change your mind about her, there'll be other people she can interact with. You avoid an awkward situation.
2007-01-18 09:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In what way do you mean getting shot down? I have a fiancee and an ex-fiancee and the three of us do well together. In fact, the ex has helped move the current fiancee-twice! Dwight, the current fiancee, knows that I talk to Ray, the ex, and that I have other male contact (e-mails) and has no problem with that. He knows that I love him very much and there is no reason for him to doubt me. Even if you get told all she wants is friendship, it shouldn't ruin anything. What have you got to lose? Give it a shot ~ tell her how you feel but that you will accept being just friends if that is what she wants in your relationship.
2007-01-18 09:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by grandmapattydawn55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does feel kinda weird when a guy you consider your friend, busts out with the I like you stuff. BUT you have to analize things, do you feel like she's interested in you other than just a friendship? dont confuse them both. But in my opinion, if you're both mature enough, you can take a rejection and hopefully she will be nice about it. There's no way this may affect your friendship now.....well maybe a little, just gonna feel a little ackward, but give it a try......all is fair in love and war.
Good Luck
2007-01-18 09:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been in this situation before. Let me tell you me and my best guy friend were crushing on each other but we didn't know. Sometimes the best thing is to just ask, or say something like, "Look i have to tell you something really important, but i don't want it to affect our friendship." Then you tell her, "I really like you and I was hoping that maybe we could go out. You now like on a date or something of the sort." "Maybe even have a serious relationship later on, if you would like that." "If not that's OK" But of course let her answer in between sentences. Hope it goes OK.
2007-01-18 09:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not really that bad because actually my ex and i dated last year and when we broke up i was heart broken but i wasnt going to let it affect the fact that he's one of my friends and we got really close this year and we ended up dating each other again (and are still together) but give it a chance she might feel the same way you do but if she does turn you down dont let it affect your friendship because she might start liking you later on if she doesnt like you now
2007-01-18 09:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by baby b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to go do something - and don't make a big romantic deal. I remember guys doing this and me wondering the 3rd or 4th time - "is this a date?" It may not register as a date for a while and then she can ask later, you can kinda play it cool, and if she seems like not wanting to date, all's well.
2007-01-18 09:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be afraid to ask her. my and my best friend were real close and he liked me and pulled out the courage to ask me out. but because i really only like him as a friend i said no. and it was never weird between us after that. but this girl could feel the same. either she likes u or she doesnt . but it will not ruin ur relationship with her. good luck buddy!
2007-01-18 09:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel because she might feel the same way. Tell her that if she doesn't feel that way then it doesn't have to be weird but it will be for the first few times you see her anyway. I think it's good to get these things out in the open.
2007-01-18 09:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Treyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you two really have such a great connection its not because she doesnt like you. make a move, call her this weekend, hangout with her alone, no one else, but something very relaxed, something both of you love doing, dont make it a date, see how everything goes, give her a kiss at the end of the night, ask if you can call her again.
2007-01-18 09:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by ronny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well........I don't think it would effect anything. Normally what happens is when you break up, it ruins your relationship. But you should make sure with her first, (if you do start going out) that if you break up, that you will still be friends. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-18 09:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by XD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋