I recently started putting in applications for jobs. I have a 11 month old and I have NEVER let a stranger watch him. We have moved out of state and I have no friends or family around to help me. My husband makes enough for me to stay at home. I wanted to go back to work to just get out of the house. I had a phone interview and I am expecting a second interview. I am getting cold feet. It started out that I can't find anyone around here who is accepting infants, I searched and called every name on the military referral lists. I am on the waiting list on the base, I even called places out of the phone book! No luck! Now I worry about what I will miss out on and is it really worth it to go back to work after paying child care fees??
Any thoughts? I need some REAL advice. Please!?
Thank you.
2007-01-18 09:25:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You will never get this time with your child back. I stay at home with my kids and just cut our budget. We don't eat out as often as some, I clean my own house and wash my own vehicle. We shop clearance and consignment.
The first years really mold your child. I wouldn't want someone else doing that for me.
If you are just wanting to get out of the house, consider volunteer work!
Good luck, whatever you decide.
2007-01-18 09:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sherral 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me honey, it's not worth going back to work. You will be spending so much money on daycare that you will be working just to pay them. Plus, remember how it was to get up early in the morning to get dressed and rush to work on time when you would rather stay in bed? Now imagine getting ready PLUS getting your son ready for the sitter. Then there are sick days that you have to worry about. Will there be enough for you and your son since you will need to stay home when he's sick as well as when you are sick?
You will be better off finding a Mommy group in your area. They have regular meetings in which your son can interact with other children, you will have an instant support group of friends who are in similar situations and once you get to know them and trust them you can always ask them to watch your son while you spend a few quiet hours at home to regain your sanity. You won't have to worry about missing anything your son is doing while you are away.
You have a very rare opportunity to be there as your son grows up that most women would KILL for. Don't waste it because you want to spend time out of the house. If you stay active with your son you won't regret it. Trust me.
2007-01-18 17:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by lilacdelight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't want to go back to work but at one yr my son was getting extremly attached so i went back to work 2 days a week then my hubby could watch my son and he was actually really excited about daddy son time and it worked out good because now i get a bit of maternity leave from my job for my second and my son relized i always come back and its a really great feeling for me to come home hes soo excited to see me he yells MOMMY MOMMY MOMMY!!!!!! this time i will not be going back to work its really up to you though if you are happy staying home with your son all the time i'd say do that and get out once in a while another way the first three years are the most important ones of their lives and a stay at home parent is a great thing maybe pay a babysitter to watch him for a couple hours and go shopping lol just so he understands you go and come back but if you feel you need to get out then do it some women can't handle being cooped up in the house with no adult interaction then try working only a couple days a week
i'd say stay home its very rewarding
2007-01-18 17:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should stay at home. Being a stay at home Mom doesn't mean that you have to give up your life. With all the extra time to spend with your son you could introduce him to all sorts of stuff that he will never experience in a day care. For instance you can take more trips to museums and parks. Introduce him to things that intrigued you when you were small. It will also give you a chance to meet new people, by finding play groups and things of that sort. It ultimately is up to you, but I think it would be wonderful for both you and your son if you can stay home with him! It's only 5 years, then you can work once he starts Kindergarten!
Best of Luck!
2007-01-18 17:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD! I am on the same boat. Except I have 2 little ones. With the prospect of my husband being deployed and going on TDYs, I basically have to have a day job. I can't find anyone to sit for me at night. And we only have one car, which makes job hunting even harder, since he has the car all day. I just feel like everything is working against me. It is worth it if it saves your sanity or you make more then it costs. I really want to save up for a house. So the search continues. I wish I could offer more, but I do feel your pain.
2007-01-18 17:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by angelbabydoll82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just working a shift or two per week. It's enough time for you to get out of the house and interact with adults, not to mention a little extra cash.
I don't know if it's possible to have your husband watch the baby while you're working?
If you don't have to work, but need some "you" time... maybe join a group or something.
2007-01-18 18:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you come home fresh and having had a break.. then go for it... I work out and I love my job.. but when they are little it is hard...
2007-01-18 17:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋