ok. i have a huge crush on a guy in my sicence class! and hes hot!! but heres the thing... he had a girl friend that broke up w/ him. but he still loves her! and she wont take him back. and i dont know what to do??? i wanna make a move. but i dont know if i should??? and if i do ask (to go out w/ me)him he will so no well maybe? and if he says no than well ill be SAD! sure they broke up 3 weeks ago but w/e. girls PLEASE help me!!!
2007-01-18 09:23:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't ask him out right away, try talking to him first and then make him feel better, hook up with hiom couple of times, and then he ll ask u out him slef watch!!!
2007-01-18 09:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Loco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can really do to make a guy get over his X. It just takes time.
IF you do decide you want to approach him, it better be with some sort of mature, great gesture.
For example, striking up a conversation with him and during the conversation you can "admit" to him that you'd really like to get to know him better and see if he'd like to get a coffee and chat sometime. Keep it simple. Refrain from mentioning "going out" (which is the word you kids use to describe dating) because that might turn him off. If he's not over his ex, the last thing he's prolly looking for is another date.
2007-01-18 17:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, everyone needs time to get over broken relationships... Just be friends with him for the time being, I know its hard for you, but if you really like him it will be worth the wait! And think from his perspective - how would you feel if you just broke up, and then had someone hitting on you..... Ask him if he would like to go to a movie - as friends - let him get to know you better. Just be yourself and take your time. And honestly, if he says no and you are sad, it really isnt the end of the World!!! You are young - so if you get rejected just put it down to experience.
2007-01-18 17:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Eve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAGS:
1) He just got out of a relationship.
2) SHE broke up with him (as opposed to HE breaking up with her).
3) He still loves her.
4) She won't take him back (RIGHT NOW... the future is untold).
CLEALRY he is WALKING wounded and EMOTIONALLY unavailable. You can definitely go ahead and make your move but I'm almost 99.99% sure he will either 1) turn you down because his heart is still with her or 2) go along with you, on the rebound. And bet your bottom dollar, if she comes crawling back into his life he will run back to her faster than a fat kid running to the ice cream truck.
K.
2007-01-18 17:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ken K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you ask him for help with a science question? That may be the ice breaker! Then you can see how he responds. Maybe suggest a "non-intimidating" place to discuss it like the library so he doesn't feel like it is a date. If he still loves her, he may need to ease his way out. Don't be too forward ~ you may scare the living begeebers out of him and ruin any chance to get a little closer!
2007-01-18 17:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by grandmapattydawn55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i'm telling you dont ask him out i know this boy maybe really cute but do u really want a broken toy wait a while for wounds to heal and him to get the focus of the ex cause when hes fully healed he'll have more room to think about you play the loving concerned by standard and be there for him then when things seem clear make your move be of luck to ya
2007-01-18 17:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay i'm like having the same problem listen up u should drop some hints that u like him and have a friend of his ask him if he likes u if he says no don't panic some guys just hide it but make sure he can totaly tell u like him and then it should all work out cuze guys always like u wen u do that kinda stuff.
2007-01-18 17:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by sam !pnutbttrjelly! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey don't ask him out. he is still in a mess from his last relationship. if he says yes u will be known to urself an others as the rebound girl. if he says no u will be known as the girl he blew off. like someone else or wait a longer time and then ask. like 6-7 weeks
2007-01-18 17:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by SHANISE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you have a good chance with him go for it, he's weak right now. Even if you don't have a good chance, he still might take you as he just may be looking for someone to fill that spot. If the later is the case than don't expect a long relationship.
2007-01-18 17:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tommy V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
0kay i think u should make a move
because if u dont he might get back wit her
u should help him get over his gurl
wit yo love so try it the wrost that can
happen iz he say no
if he does **** him
2007-01-18 17:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋