I am a muslim girl trying to find a partner but I really don't know how or what to do?

Question

I'm a muslim girl in my 20's and I was born here in the UK,
however i'm expected to marry a man who is the same as me a muslim, I don't know any muslim man , I have been on the websites and I just don't like them at all , and I'm feeling so gutted , as I live in the UK , I want someone very handsome, and he has to be my religion. The thing is I was so inlove with this boy who wasnt a muslim and I let him go for that reason ,

I don't know if I can live with myself any more , he was beautiful, and I'm finding it hard to find a partner

I don't know where to look ,

Answer 1

Marry the man you fell in love with. You'll find your life will be so much happier that way.

Answer 2

Well first you must ask yourself do you want to be free, or trapped for the rest of your life.
There is nothing in God's eyes to say you should marry someone you don't love, and that's what God is all about Love, no matter what name you give him.
You sound like you are married to your religion, why? because you want to be, or is it expected of you?
Have faith in God, and if you must find someone of the same religion, but do remember ALL religion is man made, and that is FACT, faith comes from God, what you believe, man wrote all the things that are there controlling people, this way they can have power, if you don't believe me just open your eyes and look around, you don't need a book, or man made religion forcing you to do things you don't want to do, JUST have FAITH in GOD. when the time is right you will find the man of your dreams, but it needs to be your dreams, not what others want.
Trust in your heart, not a book

Love & Peace

Answer 3

Ok, I believe you're being just a little to hard on yourself. Islam is a simple religion with simple guidelines but thanks to our human nature we have a way of over complicating things. Baggy pants aren't haram, it covers ya up thats all ya need. Allah simply wanted us to guard our modesty not obsess over it, so long as your not showing too much skin or figure why worry? Music is fine lots of music has a good message to it so why should it be bad to listen to it? And the boys...the whole gender issue is rediculous. In Islam men and women have equal social status...This means that women will and should be active in society. Being active in society means you'll be interacting with both men and women. Having the mindset that you cannot talk to other boys is not what Allah wanted. We're all part of the same species why shouldn't we be allowed to interact. My mothers a police officer in the city (she was top women in her class when she was in the academy). She doesn't wear hijab while on the job, she works with a lot of other men, she listens to music a lot and has many male friends, yet she is one of the most pious muslim I know. It's easy to live in a non muslim majority country, it's when we over-complicate things that make following our religion difficult

Answer 4

If you are muslim girl without parents and blood relation, you should marry someone who in first preference God fearing, then from good family, then having wealth to support the family and the last preference should be handsome.I will advise you to seek guidence from Allah by making prayers everytime and seek his guidance that he may direct someone who may prove to be a caring and faithful partner for whole life or if if you have already somebody in mind ,pray that Allah may cause that proposal to be confirmed, if that particular man is suitable for you or He may cause that man to keep away from you.Last but not the least if you are serious for marriage, it is not an advertising affair.You might get stupid proposal or silly replies.Wish you best of luck, at all times.

Answer 5

The point is to find a person who shares with you the same values and beliefs which we call religion. You are in an open society which is better than the Middle East. We have become extremists now in the Middle East, you won't like this version of Muslims. In your society, Just find a person who is not fighting with God and in total peace with him even on hard times. If you are that kind of person, God will send you someone like you one day, but until that time comes, don't lose your faith and begin fighting with God ;o))

Answer 6

I just want to remind you that in the final revalation, The Quran, it is not allowed for a woman to marry the people of the book (Jews and Christians), however it is allowed for men to marry people of the book due to the fact that the man is the breadwinner of the home and also the leader of the home. secondly i suggest that you repent for ur past relationship and sincerely pray u neva fall in2 sin again and vow not 2 return 2 that act again. Lastly contact some other muslim sisters and im sure they will be able to find someone 4u.

Answer 7

Welcome to the real world! do not let your aspirations or goals be limited or defined by your religion (especially Islam). True love is not a matter of life or death..it's more important than that! I note with interest all the 'thumbs down' that all the sensible and non-judgemental replies have attracted. You are free to choose for yourself. Freedom is a gift that no person should surrender.
To the obnoxious moslems who have tried to intimidate and terrorise with their vile propaganda, I say pish be upon them!

Answer 8

So your criteria for a good muslim husband is that he has to be very handsome? I don't think you have understood the meaning of Islam. I say first discover your spirituality and experience what it feels to be connected to Allah.

Once you are spiritually sound, you will make good decisions in life concerning everything especially your mate who is supposed to be your guide through Islam for the rest of your life. Don't take this lightly, you have to understand yourself as a muslim first and then you will know what you want in a fellow muslim.

Answer 9

Assalam alaikum
You should definetly go to the masjid, talk to some sisters that you know or meet new ones and ask them if they know of anybody, then you can have all the time you want to get to know him and see how beautiful commited muslims can be! : ) this is serious business, you just have to trust God that He will give you the right one, make lots of du'as and be patient, the Lord likes the patient ones..!
Good luck...

Answer 10

sit back relax let your parents find you a nice husband from pakistan you marry him he comes over gets a job packing.
or do what one of my friends did when she was forced by her mother and uncles to marry a man in pakistan she hated, leave him over there and refuse to let him over here then get a white boyfriend with no problems at all. dont worry about god being angry at your infidelity as god does not exist




glad i could help.

Answer 11

As an atheist, I find this to be an incredibly stupid question. Nobody's making you find a Muslim man, just your archaic beliefs. No one is forcing you to be a religion that states women are inferior to men. There are plenty of great non-Muslims out there. You're just discriminating based on beliefs (and possibly color).