finding out that I am co-dependent with all of the characteristics and behavior. This is why I have trouble with people...especially at the workplace. I'm intolerable of their behavior which can be antagonizing, rude, jealous...whatever. I have always held just receptionist type jobs and others that may be on my level or above myself sometimes try to have some kind of power over me or try to make me look bad or incapable of doing my job when clearly I am capable. People are so jealous and nasty sometimes. I have always been nice to people and then some will turn on you and just be nasty out of the blue and I don't know how to take that. I try not to be nasty back because I don't want to be that way. Then they'll always, always try to be nice the next day or later that same day and by then my walls are up and eventually I don't want to even speak to them ever again. How do I overcome these types of behaviors in people. Some tell me that no one is perfect but this is ridiculous.
2007-01-18 09:05:12 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Keep reading that book honey. What you described is NOT co-dependency. Co-dependent people live their life for others and put themselves last. Or so it would seem. They actually get gratification from making others happy...it's their vice in life. This is not what you explain. What you described sounds hormonal. I don't mean to be harsh, but it's a really bittered attitude. I'm not sure what it stems from or why you feel this way, but whoever diagnosed you as co-dependent, really needs to get off the drugs. You sound like the average person who is fed up with being told what to do and having to kiss the very butt of those who make you feel inferior.
It's life, take the high road and quit worrying about those other people, they don't seem to be worth the effort.
I wish you well.
2007-01-18 09:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone at your work read the book, they would all see signs of co-dependency in themselves. Forget the label. Read the book and take the opportunity to learn about who you are, what your boundaries are, and what you believe in. That way you can stand up for yourself without having to be nasty and allow the other person to be who they are. This is an opportunity for emotional and spiritual growth. Enjoy the journey! And never ever forget: Business is Business. Don't take it personally. People get in a hurry or under deadline and they can be very direct with their communications -- they don't even realize they do it - that's why they are nice the next day. You may be doing some things that need correcting -- just as they may. Be gentle with yourself and them. good luck!
2007-01-19 02:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sara J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one is perfect. If you are co-dependent check out the nearest alanon meeting. You can find it in the phone book.
2007-01-18 17:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by timjim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋