2007-01-18 08:53:18 · 17 answers · asked by Sony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say you are "struggling", maybe stop trying to find someone SO desperately. Make time to fulfill your own needs and then you will not have to totally rely on a partner to fill all of those needs for you. That is a lot of pressure to put on someone. I know it sounds cliche, but you have to love yourself before you can love someone else!
2007-01-18 08:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding someone that we can care for, that cares for us, and that we respect, is very difficult at times indeed. There isn't a secret formula, but many of us wish there were.
I would offer two pieces of advice:
1. Reconsider what you mean by "your needs". Are your needs that "he be rich so he can spoil me?", or that "he be someone who'll always be there when I need (not want, but need) him". Are you maybe being overly critical, and expecting someone to love and desire you immediately, instead of understanding that true love deepens with time? It takes a long time to really understand WHO someone is..so dont pass over the ugly duckling who may really be a beautiful swan in disguise.
2. Be patient. I've found that when I've "looked hard" to find someone, I usually cant. And soon after I've given up, someone will tap me on the shoulder and turn out to be who I was looking for to begin with :)
Good luck :)
2007-01-18 17:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by badaz06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya you'll never find a b/f with that attitude
women like you are single and 40 and their looks have long since expired in hope of grabing a man
will you meet his needs...
just find someone you can be compatible with
do your girl friends meet your needs.. b/c that all a b/f is but more intimate
a friend
could you email me so I can email you back .. I want to see a pic of you to see what you look like.. I'm being serious.. I'm curious. will You?
also.. you risk waiting to long to find someone.. and when you think you found a guy that meets your needs.. you'll invest all your time and then what happens if he becomes an A hole.... all that for nothing but a lesson learned and more years and possibilies thrown aside
2007-01-18 16:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there for you. Sometimes when you stop looking for something, it finds you instead. Just be the best person you can be, focus on something other than finding a boyfriend, and someone will come into your life when you least expect it!
Set a goal to do something completely new, like run a marathon or learn a foreign language, write in a journal, save up money for a trip to someplace you've always wanted to visit.
Best of luck to you on finding Mr. Right.
2007-01-18 16:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure there is! Be patient and the right one will come. My advise is to play the field and look around. Remember dating is not a bad thing, and when I say dating I mean going to the movies one night with one guy and a different night go with someone different. In today's world everyone thinks you have to be committed to someone in order to be dating, but that's not true. And it is not considered whoring around either, it's what people did forever. If you do that chances of finding the Mr. Right are increased without being committed to someone and having to go through the whole ordeal of a break-up.
2007-01-18 17:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by j0kr420 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should stop looking for someone to meet *your* needs and focus on other people for awhile...try to think about finding someone who is intelligent and fun to be with. It's not all about you, and people get turned off by girls who think they're the centre of the world.
2007-01-18 16:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might just have high standards. Try lowering them for a bit and see what happens.
Now, by this I don't mean put up with a Jackass that treats you badly, but rather say you are looking for someone who reads poetry, but the guy you're with only knows limericks. Stuff like that.
2007-01-18 16:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe u are not looking in the right place. 1)try another place or 2)u could lower ur standards ur or 3)be patient and keep searching till u find one that u're satisfied wiv. i would go for 3.
2007-01-18 17:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elephants take years to mate.
Instead of struggling (sounds like fighting) why not just accept and be nice.
2007-01-18 17:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's always someone out there for you.
review your "needs" and discuss it with a close friend. could it be too high and unrealistic?
having a bf and progressing into a relationship is not all about personal needs. he too have his needs and both need to work them out to achieve them.
let it be and in no time . . . he'll be standing infront of you.
2007-01-18 19:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋