Independent/career girls... question for you?

Question

Maybe its my age (28), or perhaps im a bit of an ol' romantic, but I really get turned on by girls who say they want protecting and looking after, when they show a certain vulnerability. Its sxy as hell. There jus seems to be far less of these kinda girls these days. Nothing wrong with being independent and confident (im very independent!), and wanting careers etc, but dont you girls secretly desire a fella to care for you and protect you? your thoughts please....

Answer 1

LOL - Every girl does. But in our society it's hard to show that kind of 'weakness' I don’t' think that it is a weakness. But our society does view it as that. I would never be with a guy that didn't want to/or protect me. Now I've been boxing since I was 16, I have a career that pays me well, I have nice things, and I'm terribly independent. But my guy knows how much I need him, & he knows that when I'm with him I can relax & let my guard down because I know that he will protect me & try to keep me as safe as possible. Now because of how strong willed I am, I had to find a man that was stronger then me, he had to show me that I actually wanted these things, because I was taught that I didn't & shouldn't. I had to learn that this was okay. Sad isn't it?

Answer 2

I know you were looking for answers from women, but I'm afraid we're a dying breed.
I think it's important to mention that there are a lot of career minded women who are whining about how lonely they are and that they're regretful that they focused so much on being professionally grounded. Regardless, you and I are a dying breed. The world has changed and soon, people with our perspective won't be around anymore.
We're left over from learning from a generation where men were expected to be a protector/provider.
Overall, people are persuing serious relationships later in life, after becoming financially stable and ready to "settle down".

Edit: After reading some responses above, it just shows how screwed us guys are. Why does it make sense for a guy to buy a girl dinner when she makes more money than he does? And yet, it's totally unreasonable to expect a woman to clean your clothes even though both actions are, by definition, traditional.

Answer 3

I am very independent and am a single mom. I am also a career woman-self made. I believe that "If you marry for money, you earn every penny of it". I have been in relationships with men who also wanted to provide and "take care of me". However, there always did seem to be a price tag attached.

If you are different, good for you. I am sure you will have no problem meeting a girl that wants that. You may want to move to Palm Beach, FL. I just moved away from there and can tell you that there are pretty great chances of meeting that kind of girl there.

Answer 4

Some guys are intimidated by "pretty" girls. This may be due to his past or merely TV ("pretty" girls are portrayed as stuck up, bitchy, too into themselves to care about someone else) And believe it or not, most guys are sensitive too. I'm not saying your like the above. But maybe it might help for you to make the move and show them that your anything but that. And maybe take a look at the way you act and talk, you might not mean it. but almost all the time everything we say and do sometimes comes across the wrong way (depending on the mood of others). hope that helps...good luck sunshine! :)

Answer 5

Yes, I would love it, but I enjoy working and helping my husband pay the bills. That way he doesn't have to work such long hours and he comes home to us sooner and less stressed. He knows I am always there to back him up and make some dough and we have more money to spend. Nowadays it almost takes 2 incomes to make it unless you have high paying jobs, which unfortunately we don't. If you don't work, you seem to fill your time with more spending and it leads to more debt. Working and staying busy with that is good for you. I do like the protecting part and he does that well. I am definitely an old fashioned woman, but do enjoy working and helping out.

Answer 6

OF COURSE WE DO!!!! With costs of living and society these days, we don't have a choice, but to work and make a career. Sometimes 2 incomes are definitely better than 1, but we still want our man to protect us and care for us and be the hero!!

Answer 7

No. I can take care of myself just fine - for me it's not about that - it's about being loved and loving in return. Of course if you love each other the protecting of one another just comes naturally.
Women have grown more independent and confident over the years as too many times the man walks out on them leaving them (and their kids) high and dry - and if they don't know how to take care of themselves and be independent they are going to get burnt.

Answer 8

Let's see, I don't believe I should rely on anyone to look after me but me.

But I want a boyfriend who will go downstairs with a baseball bat to see what that noise is.

There's nothing wrong with a guy wanting to take care of me and I do like having a guy who will give me his jacket when I'm cold, to buy me dinner, etc. But at the end of the day, there are so many things that could go wrong if you don't have the ability to take care of yourself.

Answer 9

Everyone may disagree, but they all desire a guy to to care for them and protect them/make them feel safe on some level whether they admit it or not. It's in the genetics. You can't run away from that. Only, the career girls usually want this sort of thing usually from the most grandest guy....like James Bond.

Answer 10

Yes all women do, but...this is where it gets tricky cause we don't want you to know this, then you have a 1 up on us. And if you know then it can be used against you. No one likes to be vulnerable. As girls though, we all need protecting and caring and compassion from our significant other.