I want him get more into foreplay and let him know what I like and dont like. Does anyone think he would be offended if I bought a book about sex/foreplay and highlighted what I wanted from him? I am not a verbal person when it comes to this kinda stuff and what he is doing right now makes me feel unsatisfied...
2007-01-18 08:50:32 · 40 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go look for articles on the askmen.com website and email them to him. That is what I have done with my bf. I also email him articles about how I could please him so he knows I'm looking out for both of us!
2007-01-18 08:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you, but being verbal or giving some other type of clues to what you like is VERY important. If you like foreplay, or certain things during foreplay, you HAVE to let him know. He won't read your mind. If he isn't doing something that you want him too, show him pictures, have him look through that book with you, but don't just hand him a book and say, "read the high-lighted stuff."
2007-01-18 08:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by hammer6505 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might get offended, but you would know that better than anyone.
Don't take it to hime like you are getting a manual. Tell him you came across it while in a book store and thought it was kinky. Make sure it also has stuff you can do for him and tell him you want to try it. Then just slip it in that he could try some of it on you. He might think you are being frisky and get turned on instead of offended.
Side note, he might just not be into foreplay. Some guys just aren't any good at it. You might just have to get used to it... or leave him.
2007-01-18 08:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand much what you said, but I think he said about bad and dark thing. He was sorry you. I know that you feel very sad and offended but anyway, you should meet him and say about everything, what you don't want to do and your limit. If you feel don't fix or don't want to see him, leave him lightly, and if you solve the problem, forgive him. And to be safe, not to go alone with him after dark, and when you go out, not to solitary places, should travel in groups. Anyway, there are times when he can not control my emotions, you need to know to protect yourself, and wonder of your love for each other really or he just need sex. But if he make a mistake just once in that while, and you do not see him so often asked like that again, forgive him. But if he asked several times, telling him what you think, feeling offended, sad. And do not get upset if you break up, there are a lot of guys in the world are very nice and kind, you can choose for yourselves 1. Good luck!
2016-05-24 04:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're interested in trying some new stuff. Don't tell him he's not getting the job done which WILL hurt his ego. Go shopping for a book or video with him. If he's normal, this will NOT offend him. Then read/watch together and just say "that looks like fun" whenever something you like comes up. If you're not normally verbal about this stuff, he should find this whole experience a turn-on.
2007-01-18 09:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sam C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the lead in the bedroom, not Borders book store, communication is the key that opens up many doors. You must initiate all the foreplay and tell him what you like when things are heating up in the sac, we all tend to be less shy when we are at this point, I bet he will do whatever it takes to keep you sexually satisfied, this is also an opportunity for you to try a few different things with him.... your the teacher and he's the student, that is a huge turn on!!!
2007-01-18 08:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look let him find the book and some toys around your room and stuff, then he will be interested in reading and seeing how to please you, he will not be offended but let him know if he asks that you want to try new things like something on the book or buy a video and both of you act it out, and then you ll get what you want by getting him excited....go for it!!
2007-01-18 08:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might get excited if you bring home a book but would probably get offended by the highlighting. Why dont you get the book and go through it together, you will discover things your boyfriend is into and you can put in your input too, in a way that wont offend him. have fun!!!
2007-01-18 08:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he should have a problem with a book. But remember that dude can't read your mind, honey. You have to verbalize to him. How about if during foreplay you take his hand and say, "try it this way." Or why don't you ask him if there is a fantasy he would like you to fulfill for him. If you show you are willing to please him then he should be willing to please you as well.
If not, dump him.
2007-01-18 08:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on your assessment of your boyfriend. On general principle, any way to improve the foreplay administered to the lady is better than hearing " You are terrible at this ! " - and not receiving the opportunity to learn and improve.
2007-01-18 08:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Just let him know it's just to increase the passion and pleasure for the both of you. There's also a plus side, the more open and honest the two of you are about sex, the better and more wild it would be.
Good Luck! =)
2007-01-18 08:58:42 · answer #11 · answered by GoddessJeneffer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋