this sounds harsh, but my mom is sick. i love her dearly....i care...i would do anything in the world for her...etc..
but she uses this "i'm sick" excuse for everything. like she could go out and shoot someone and say, "yeah but i'm sick"
she wont take care of her kid properly...i mean after awhile, do you just come to the point where you dont believe them anymore???
she says she could die (she has lupus)...and i worry enough on my own, and then i wonder why she tries to guilt me into doing things that arent my place. i would never tell her all this, but i swear...i am just so darn frustrated.
you know, if everyone thought i was going to die, i wouldn't do it.
2007-01-18 08:47:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ha! i knew someone would tell me i was whining. way to go!
2007-01-18 09:12:52 · update #1
i actually think that person's answer was full of crap. strop trying to sound smart.
2007-01-18 09:14:04 · update #2
never said i didnt love her or appreciate her.
2007-01-18 09:14:42 · update #3
I'm with you on this one...I hate whiners too.
People that sit around and "poor me" all the time. Of course I've been told I have no sympathy in me at all. But that's not true, when someone is sick with the flue or a broken bone, you know where you can really tell they are, I doctor them to the best of my knowledge. I can't stand to see an animal or child hurt. But to just have someone constantly complain, just to complain drives me up the wall. And it disgust me to no end to see people on disability that is in better shape than I am living off the tax payers money because they are to frigging lazy to do an honest days work...pet peeve over for the day!
2007-01-18 08:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a close relative who has lupus. She has nearly died and has had multiple surgeries for removals of organs like her gall bladder and her spleen. She suffers in a great deal of pain and she works but she has to get help from her children and husband with household chores because she needs the help.
Your mom, if she has systemic lupus, could actually die from it if it affects her kidneys or other vital organs.
While I don't think she should say that to you to make you feel guilty I can understand why she might not be able to do all of these things you think she can do. Everyone with lupus suffers and you can't really understand it unless you are going through it.
2007-01-18 17:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Through the rest of you life somethings are going to frustrate you. I lost a parent at a very young age. and you don't get over it. Love your mom while she is still here. If she whines so what, if she asked you to do things that you feel are unreasonable, just do it. If she wasn't here and all of those special occasions come around where you wish your mom was there. You probably wouldn't be saying the things you are saying now.
2007-01-18 17:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lupus is a terrible disease to have and i feel for your mum.
but i am guessing here that your dad is not around and so she is using you as her support person.
this is unfair on you i know, and would be really tough.
is there anyone else your mum can turn to that might be able to give her the support she needs? have you looked into getting her some care to take the load off you some of the time?
maybe some councelling for you too would help you to cope with the situation.
2007-01-18 18:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by elly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do all you can for her, pretty soon she will no longer be with you and you'll regret not doing all the stuff she asked for. I know you have a life too, but try and make hers the best possible for the time she may have.
2007-01-18 17:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um.... your question sounds a bit like whining itself. While I abhor whiners... you too are indulging in self-pity on paper...
Now that you see our side of your complaint - (cuz it really isn't a question now is it?)... what would YOU want people to tell YOU if they caught you whining???
What if your "complaint" (i.e. whine) is legitimate? Think about how YOU would want to be treated if you were in your mother's situation...
A lot of people whine because no one is listening. Are you???
2007-01-18 17:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not care for them either but that all your mother got is her sickes she know that she can get thing done for her and she know you love just be a little more patients
2007-01-18 17:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Summer G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is just suck it up for now. You only get one mom. So juts be their for her and I'm sure you will be blessed for your efforts.
2007-01-18 17:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋