Ok i know several diffrent families wher mom does everything for there children even there adult children , cooks clean , laundry serves there food cleans there room , basically waits on them hand and feet like they never cut the umbilical cord , i on the other hand have taught my kids to do things for them selfs at an early age , like use the toaster , microwave , then when they got older i taught them how to do other things on own like fix themself breakfast , lunch , etc , anyway what would u sugesst to a parent and child that is doing this
2007-01-18 08:45:12 · 8 answers · asked by dale621 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you are right for doing this. Your children may not always have you by their side for ever and they will need to know how to live their life and parents who never cut the cord will always have to help support their kids and never be able to fully enjoy life with out the worry of taking care of their adult kids.
2007-01-18 08:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by leea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making them learn to be independant is the best thing you can do for them! I was raised by my grandparents and my grandmother has always done everything for me. I'm now 30 and she still tries to clean my house for me when she comes over. I have 6 kids and make them do almost everything for themselves! My grandmother thinks I'm trying to turn them into my little slaves, but I'm really trying to teach them life skills. When I left home I didn't know how to cook, clean, do laundry, etc..; so I don't want them to be overwhelmed like I was. You are doing the right thing! My 11 year old, two 9 year olds, and 8 year old know how to cook simple things, get their own food and drinks, do laundry, do dishes, and even take care of their two 4 year old sisters! I know that if I got sick they could manage, and that when they do move out they can take care of themselves. Ifeel good as a parent, even though they think I'm being mean and strict. They'll appreciate all that I made them do when they get older!
2007-01-18 17:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is called being indepensdable, wich is okay.. I think it is better for them to know how to make things by themselves because we migth not be for them always!!! I have a 6 adn a 2 yr old and they know how to do things by themselfs, like gatting their table clth everytime we are going to eat, thye pick up their dirty clothes and placed them in a basket and so as the toys they used they pick them up after playing ...ad as they get older I will be teaching them more stuff to do by themselves and there is nothing wrong I think it is good for them to be independable...Becaus emy brother used to be a mommas boy until he was 26 and then he moved out and he try to be independable but it was too late I guess and it took him a while to be independent !!! So don;t worry I believe you are doing the rigth thing !!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-18 17:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I had a friend when we were seniors in high school who didn't know how to do her laundry or pack a suitcase. It was shocking to me that she hadn't learned these basic skills and I felt bad that her parents had not better equipped her for being on her own. Yes as parents we are supposed to provide for and do things for our children, but it is also our responsibility to teach them how to take care of themselves. They are not going to live at home, hopefully, their entire lives and they have to have survival skills. It's sad when parents don't teach their children these things.
2007-01-18 17:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by disneychick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea I think your right what your doing. I do the same thing I teach my 2yr.old. son to put his toys away and stuff like that. I do know some people that are like that too. i dont know how they can do that. I was tought to be Indepenent since little had to do everything for myself. And yea we parents we will not always be there. in that kind of way.
2007-01-18 17:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by baby_taz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a mature, responsible parent who is teaching her children how to be independent and self-reliant.What you're doing will fill them with confidence; and will instill in them a drive to keep learning. Good job, Mom!
2007-01-18 17:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly a mistake to wait on your children hand and foot. It only hurts them later on.....
2007-01-18 17:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by karen_03625 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RECIPE FOR DISASTER.... THE KIDS WILL HAVE A RUDE AWAKENING WHEN LIFE HITS THEM HEAD ON!
2007-01-18 16:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Bonno 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋