okay so me and this guy of 1 year and 1/2 just broke up recently... We had a pretty good relationship, problems at times, but it was our insecurities that caused us to break up...We both loved eachother very much, but he has to move a state a way from me, so he figured it would be the easiest way to leave me...
Anyways, so today a girl in my class comes up to me and tells me that he was talking crap about me at a party he went to over the weekend...See the thing is, all of the stuff he said, he has said the complete opposite to me... He told everyone that I was a stalker, psycho, and completely desperate..
I feel like I need to say something to him because we still have a good relationship even after the break up... We plan on both growing up a lot before we get back together, but this just kills me to find out how two faced he is being. So the question here is, should I confront him about this? Or what should I do?
2007-01-18 08:43:18 · 17 answers · asked by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just calmly ask him about what you think he said...you never know. I personally would focus on who told you. Maybe the girl who told you what he said is lying or maybe she was jelous of you dating the guy, and wanted to make you mad so you would totally never talk to him again, so she could date him.
2007-01-18 09:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by gubble_bum234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just mention to him that people have been telling you what he'd been saying about you. Say "Thanks" and walk away.
That's it.
Then give him the cold shoulder and see if he comes crawling back. If not, no loss. If so, tell him you don't think he's the right guy for you and that you're so disappointed in him that you don't really want to be involved anymore.
Remember, you get to choose!!!
Be choosy and choose wisely. Don't worry, men are easy to get if you are a sweet nice girl, just be patient and hold to some personnel values.
Good Luck:)
(you can do much better that him, consider him a practice boyfriend;)
2007-01-18 16:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay take a minute to think. First usually when girls\guys tell you someone is talking crap about you it isnt true. They only say things like that to get you mad because they are jelous of what you to had. Its happened to me before and I almost got into a fist fight. If you still trust him then talk to him (NOT YELL) about it. Hope this helps =]
2007-01-18 16:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on who the girl is. she may be lying. however, if its the truth, it was pretty low, and if you had a good relationship, he might be doing it to protect himself from embarassment or "why the hell did you break up with her?" don't confront him, casually bring it up in conversation, and ask if its true, don't get crazy and say stuff like "did you do this to me? how could you? how do i know you're not lying?" if he lies to you then, while your talking about it, its not worth it at all.
2007-01-18 16:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Trombone_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definatly confront him about it, but in a mature way bc the story might have gotton distroted b4 it got back to you. just casually bring it up, like say, you know i heard that you were saying mean things baout me at a party and i really value the friendship we have and i wanted to clear it up... dont start excusing him or yelling at him. i think you guys can work it out and there is proly just a miscommunication issue
2007-01-18 16:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know what -- just let it go -- be the bigger person and let him keep talking trash. if you make a big deal out of it, he can turn around and say "see i told you she's a "stalker, psycho, etc." move on honey ,,, he ain't the only coke in the desert is he now??? nope, so just move on.
2007-01-18 16:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go strait up to and tell him what is on your mind. It's only fair after what he was saying about you. You can tell him you still like him and want to get back with him but after he did you need time to think and get your thoughts. It's whats best for the two of you.
2007-01-18 16:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by soijanaladybug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definatly confront him about this but you have to remember that just because some people said that he said it dosent mean he really did don't accuse him of saying it unless you want to start a fight...
2007-01-18 16:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! Confront him. A real boyfriend doesn't tell bad stuff about their girlfriend. if you wait, well, i'll just say your going in the wrong direction.
2007-01-18 16:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its obvious that maybe your relationship isnt so good after the breakup and just let it go.
2007-01-18 16:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋