My fiance is from Australia and I have never met his parents. I have only talked to his mother couple of times but for only about 2 mins because we both can never think of what to talk about and then have awkward silences which i soo hate. What can I do? They will be here a week before our wedding but I want to get to know them a lil more before that so it wont be as awkard....Hopefully........
2007-01-18 08:42:29 · 9 answers · asked by Oz Lov 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A great way to get to know his mom would be to ask her about her courtship with your fiance's father. Ask her about little details, not only will it be a happy conversation, but it's less boring than just "How's the weather over there?" As you talk about the courtship with her, ask her little questions about what she liked the best, about information she gives you. (I.e. if she met him in high school at a sports game, ask her if she likes sports or going out a lot, ask her what her favorite place is to go to in Australia and see if you can't make plans to go there with her someday!)
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to open up to new people, I know you want to make a good impression with your future in-laws, so just take it one step at a time. If you love your fiance as much as you say you do, everything will fall into stride like it should.
2007-01-18 08:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Athena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, here are some things I know my parents talked to me about when they met my ex fiance. Number one, they want to see how well you fit their son/daughter...so be close and have fun without being all up on each other to gross em out. Second, be real and be honest...be the genuine person you are so they can see why their child chose YOU. Third, be helpful with cleaning up...this is a good one for the mother-in-laws...shows you arent lazy and that you are thoughtful. Fourth, try asking them questions about themselves...this shows that you have interest in them, not just them getting to know you. Of course always be polite...dont pout or throw a fit....this is something parents zone in on as a huge problem, even if its not. Ask your fiance for ideas about how to get close to them, maybe you all have something in common that will be a great ice breaker. Its a little nerve racking when you dont need their approval, but it certainly something you want. And although parents accept their child's partner, its so much better when they actually really love them too! I wish you the best of luck...take a deep breath before you meet them, maybe a drink before also to calm your nerves.
2007-01-18 09:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by exotichina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did a lot of e-mailing with my future mother in law. I sent her pictures of the dresses I was trying on, veils, asked her questions (even if I already knew how I felt about the subject), etc. This really helped her feel included and she has told me countless times how jealous her friends are that I kept her in the loop. She started to talk more often and it got less and less awkward. Strangely, she saw a wedding dress that she thought was "me" and e-mailed me a picture. I went looking everywhere for the dress and couldn't find it to try on and just as I was giving up, it was at the last store I planned to stop at! It was perfect and I loved it.
Also, you may want to find out if there are any Austrailian wedding traditions that you can incorporate into the wedding so she feels more at home. I had a Korean ceremony for my mom and a Texas reception (cowboy style) for my in-laws. This really touched them a lot and I have heard so many praises for how unique our wedding was.
2007-01-22 07:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by hotdoggiegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try and make conversation when they come up. I got to meet my In-laws about 7 monthes before and I have been married for 8 monthes. I still don't know how to talk to them all of the time, but I try and even if there is an awkward silence I just move on to something else.
2007-01-18 08:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never meet nor talked to my future in-laws until last Christmas. My boyfriend just loaded me up and took my out to Tucson ( where his family lives) There was plenty of silence but then I started asking questions about how my boyfriend was when he was younger. Moms love bragging about their sons. So, just start asking questions. It's going to take both of us to form a relationship and that would help a lot in the long run of your marriage.
2007-01-18 08:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by ms.michelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself for one! Talk about things going on in the world. Ask about silly moments that your fiance had when he was younger. Ask how they feel about different issues and share your views as well. Talk about where you grew up and your family since they will be meeting them as well. Ask them about grandchildren? how they feel about that? how many? Just BS your way through it. I would warm up over the phone b/c it is not so personal and much easier. So just call them out of the blue and ask them how they are doing?what they are doing?plans for their weekend? pretend like you want to know how to make an australian dish or something? Think of anything it works, trust me! Stay blessed and pray about it!
2007-01-18 08:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by shay80800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your fiance to share with you some stories about her family, talk about what they like or dislike their interest and hopes and why not their dreams. Try to learn as much as possible about your future in laws and about their interest so you have something to talk about when they arrive.
2007-01-18 09:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by mayra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend ought to stand up to her and you ought to tell her all you % is to be along with her son, you theory she could be chuffed, it sounds undesirable yet make her experience to blame, then bypass away silence, she ought to declare something, save me stated!
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2007-01-18 08:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋