Too young to marry??

Question

How young do you think is too young to get married, or to be thinking about getting married?

Do you think I am deluded, believing that I could happily marry already [I am only 21 this year]!

Any stories of young marriages [the good, the bad, & the ugly]?? Just curius....:)

Answer 1

not too long ago, 21 was just the right age to get married. if you're in love, and i mean in LOVE, then go for it. 21 is not too young to get married. my grandparents married when she was only 19 and they stayed married for 46 years. i think 18 or 19 nowadays is too young. just make sure it's what you want. most 21 year old girls are in college getting the party thing out of their system.

Answer 2

Hi there!

I don't think you can really put an age limit on when it's acceptable to get married. I was 3 weeks away from turning 21 and my husband was 3 months away from turning 21 when we got married! We've been married for a little over 2 years now and they have been the best 2 years of my life. When you love someone and you're right for each other and mature enough to be in a committed relationship there is no reason that age should be an issue. Maturity and responsibility play a large factor in whether or not a young marriage can survive the first few years. If you have faith in yourself and your mate, everything will fall into place. Hope this helps!! :)

Answer 3

This day and age I am less inclined to believe getting married just out of teenagerdom is the way to go ... except for one thing. Relative youth (in your 20s as opposed to your 30s or 40s) does help in dealing with the ... joys ... of parenting. However, you are less likely to have the resources being 10 to 20 years older could bring to bear, although it really isn't ever enough from what I can tell.

Now, looking back to my grandparents (Depression Era) and parents ("baby boomers"), I can say that as time has marched forward, the gramps did VERY well marrying young, the 'rents, not so good.

Answer 4

I got married at 22 and we are living happily ever after 5 years later. I think early marriage can happen if you have been together for awhile and he is you best friend. I would say live together for a few years first and then get married. If you can live together without any major blow ups then you can and will be married happily ever after.

Answer 5

I have the same problem. I'm 21 and I would love to get married but only under the right conditions. If we could stand on our own two feet and not have any support from our parents and if one of us is done with school. I think it's always the best decision to start out right and with no worries cause marriage will bring plenty.

Answer 6

I'm 22 and I'm getting married in October. People use to get married at the age of 16, so I think 21 is an okay age.

Live and learn, I guess! Good luck!

Answer 7

I was married at 20 years old. My husband (now X) is the same age. Even after a failed marriage I do not think I was too young. He was...

Answer 8

my mom got married when she was 16 and it didn't work out he was cheating soon after, that i think is to young neither of them had a chance to live.
when i was in high school my best friend dropped out to get her ged so she could marry her bf she was 16 married at 17, she only did it b/c she wanted to be with him but he was going to the marines, and she figured that was the only was a couple of years ago when i talked to her last it was not working out they were growing apart.
i also have another friend who got married at 20 and 6 months after was throwing his clothes over the balcony.
i have been with my bf since i was 19 i am now 23 and would like to get married but he still says we are not ready however, im pg with his second child-go figure right.
i think when your young you still have a lot of growing up to do but at 21 i think you have a better idea and understanding of what you want.

Answer 9

Age is largely irrelevant. Maturity is everything in this case.

How well do you know your partner? How long have you been together? Have you each dated other people? Do you have a shared plan for your future? Have you spoken about children, housework, beliefs? There is much to consider. Seek pre-marital counseling (many churches require this before performing the ceremony) to reassure yourselves that this is the right choice for you, and to discover where the pitfalls ahead might lie.

Answer 10

it depends on how long you have been together. i would try living with the person for no less than a year (engaged or not). and if there are any problems now make sure they are completely worked out before you do get married. i've been married 2 years (got married when 19), have a 3month old son and me and my wife are seperating. don't think you can change the person after you get married. it doesn't work............trust me!!!!