well im young i have had sexseveral times and im a teen am i too young i am very mature for my age me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time like 2 years and i have had a misscarrage before too. I am kinda addicted to it and how can i stop because i like it and we know that i could get pregnant but my boyfriend doesnt want to talk about me being pregnant after losing our first baby ... actually we have never talked about losing it will saying something to him and trying to talk it out help clear it from my mind and not think about it anymore what can i say to him to get him to talk about it ?
2007-01-18 08:29:50 · 13 answers · asked by Loving his kiss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are to young to ask this question. Come back in 5 years with everything spelled correctly and in proper sentences/paragraphs.
2007-01-18 08:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that's what wrong when young people decide to have sex and something like this happens. Maybe if he would wear a condom this might not have happened. Because you never know who else he's having sex with. HE might give you an STD if your not carefull. But if you are mature enough to care for your body, you will tell your bf that if he wants sex he uses a condom or else no sex. And the other thing just sit him down and talk to him about how you feel and maybe he will listen but knowing guys like him he won't.
2007-01-18 16:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well shug i can say this much that actually I had my first child at 16 I was not that thrill about it. but i had to tough it out . I had two more since then so u know I had to be addicted to sex also . I love my kids to death but trust an dbelieve that there is not a min that goes by and i be like damn i need a break because i am a single mom also. i also work two jobs so think about it so you want be struggling in the long run.
2007-01-18 16:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by weeping eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Im gonna start here You sound way too young to be having sex, getting pregnant or having a miscarriage, be that has it may it is too late so my advice to you is this, the way you make it sound is that your boyfriend is going to be there for you so talk to him see if he is ok maybe he wants a baby and you should make it clear that you are not ready for a baby.
And if you think you are ready for a baby you are not. I had my first baby at 14 years old and believe me i regret it too this day. I am eighteen years old with a four year old toddler i cant do half the things my friends can. So just be careful or on your graduation day you'll be carryin a toddler with you!! Good Luck and please please be careful!
2007-01-18 16:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by sapphireblue327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you have to ask if you're too young, can't speak openly to your partner about sex and pregnancy, and aren't responsible about having safe sex... then you aren't ready.
Yes, sex is fun and feels great... but sometimes you need to postpone your fun until the right time.
You need to talk with your boyfriend, and discuss both your previous pregnancy and any future pregnancies you may have. You need to discuss ways to have safe sex, that prevent unwanted pregnancies and any STDs either of you may have been exposed to. If he still refuses to discuss it, then he is not serious about having a relationship with you, he is just using you for sex and try to avoid any repurcussions.
Please talk about this with an adult (a parent, an aunt, a school counselor, a Planned Parenthood advisor) that you can trust. You have so many options, and so much of your future ahead of you, there is no need to waste or endanger it now.
2007-01-18 16:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to think beyond your current self. What kind of person to you want to be? What kind of woman do you want to be or be perceived as? Smart? Sucessful? What?
The way you express yourself just in your question tells me you are very young, very selfish and very naive.... especially about consequences and your future.
Have some respect for yourself! Slow down!
If you are that young, you have plenty of time for fun without the added burden of a child of your own.
From MY experience and observations (I know there are a FEW exceptions and I don't want to offend anyone with my views but)... the people I know that had sex early in their life have become messed up.
They either had kids and became trashy parents working 3 part time jobs just to make ends meet. Or, they are bitter, negative people who aren't socialized well and their kids are brats. All have aged ahead of their time and look like death warmed over.
Others, lucky enough to not have kids early on have bad reputations they can't shake even after 20 years.. they are looked down on by their peers because people don't forget...they didn't have respect for themselves in school or anyone else and thus they go through 'relationship' after 'relationship' in their adult life.
Never finding a healthy long lasting love. So sad.
Sure, it feels great now 'cause it's new but it'll complicate your life in so many ways... you have NO idea... why create that chaos in your life??
If you are that young... don't kid yourself in thinking your current guy is the one forever... Do you want future boyfriends to ask you out because they heard that you like sex and they are motivated by that instead of who you are? Think long and thoroughly about how you want people to think of you... and what you are comfortable thinking about yourself.
Do your parents know all of this? How torn up would they be if they knew this about you?
A miscarrage! The Powers that Be are telling you something... LISTEN! They just gave you another chance! Slow down! Finish school. Get a job. Get married or be in a committed adult relationship before having babies.
Consider yourself lucky and start out fresh.
If you and your boyfriend can't talk about the miscarrage or pregnancy... you should be smart enough to know there is no way you are old enough or ready.
If you continue to have sex at least do yourselves a favour and be protected... have him wear a condom properly or go on the pill... if you guys are too embarrassed to get these things.... again you are way too young... or just don't have intercourse... there are other things you can do to each other to get your rocks off.
Good Luck to you... sounds like you need it... and sorry to say it like this... smarten up! You already had a miscarrage... who knows what STD's are in your future too. Just wait until your brain can handle all of this when you are older... Trust me, the wait is worth it and learn to respect yourself in that time.
2007-01-22 13:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Gigi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making him want to talk will only make it worse. Just let him know you are there for him when he does need to talk. Having a baby is a huge responsiblity and a permanent one. Wait until you are married to have kids. Then you won't have to deal with baby daddy crap.
2007-01-18 16:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by Not your average mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a fool !!!
You are just putting your self down and you know better.
Run your self into the gutter so you can try to get our pitty.
2007-01-18 16:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't a healthy relationship
get out and turn your life around.
2007-01-18 16:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by itsALICE! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gilr you should be haven sex u should wait till you OLDER u heqar me OLDER plz wait plzzzzzz
2007-01-18 16:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋