I know the once bitten twice shy is a good concept but come on!!! I am a genuine good girl who would love to fallin love for real not play games or have B.S. dished out to me... But some men only look for the outer appearance not the inner being, Inner is far more superior than the outer. I amn o pageant beauty queen or a super model, but I am a super mom and a great friend with huges amounts of personality. so what is wrong with me I am a bigger women (not a overly bigger women) but bigger none the less.. Where are the great guys looking for love?? Did they die or just trying to be with the super model beauty queens? (who on some levels are superficial) not all but most. I may sound a bit bitter and YES I am.
2007-01-18 08:28:03 · 21 answers · asked by franksangelluvsgod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
know the once bitten twice shy is a good concept but come on!!! I am a genuine good girl who would love to fallin love for real not play games or have B.S. dished out to me... But some men only look for the outer appearance not the inner being, Inner is far more superior than the outer. I amn o pageant beauty queen or a super model, but I am a super mom and a great friend with huges amounts of personality. so what is wrong with me I am a bigger women (not a overly bigger women) but bigger none the less.. Where are the great guys looking for love?? Did they die or just trying to be with the super model beauty queens? (who on some levels are superficial) not all but most. I may sound a bit bitter and YES I am. BTW for all who think I eat the wrong stuff you are mistaken. I am a healthy eater plus I do exercise. thank you for your wonderfull suggestions on the whole eating and exercise thing that is not the problem.
2007-01-20 08:58:08 · update #1
BTW for all who think I eat the wrong stuff you are mistaken. I am a healthy eater plus I do exercise. thank you for your wonderfull suggestions on the whole eating and exercise thing that is not the problem.
2007-01-20 08:58:40 · update #2
This problem is not exclusive to men. Who knows why this is?
2007-01-18 08:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by scruffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright. Alright, okay first of all I know this is probably not what you want to hear but, When the timing is right then someone will come along. Someone who will appreciate you & fall madly in love with you, and doesn't want to play games. Don't allow your happiness to be dependent on weather or not you have a good guy. Find your own joy without the guy. It's hard being alone, I know this, but sometimes it's for the best. Don't ever settle, life has more for you then that.
Alright all that being said I hate to go into this but I'm going too! I am a good girl, I am loving, I am strong, I work Darn hard for everything I have, I don't use my looks to get me places. I don't think I'm the most attractive girl on the planet, but I'm not unattractive & well other people call me beautiful all the time. My sister looks like a super model. Both of us have spent our life’s being criticized & hurt by other woman. Because there is this stereotype that if a girl, does her hair, wears makeup & wears nice clothes, when they are skinny & attractive then they must be a super *****, superficial, & have barely any brains. I'm tried of this crap. Most of us are not this way, most of us are nice caring people. I know you said most but not all of us are superficial. I'm sorry I have many very, attractive friends & not a single one of us is superficial, I know attractive girls that are but not a lot.
2007-01-18 08:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem isn't you at all, it's that men think women should all look like "what they see on television (carmen electra, pam anderson)etc. when in reality these girls are all plastic! Take away their silicone breasts, put back their original nose, take out the cheek implants, put back the adipose tissue that was suctioned out and for God' Sake strip them of all their makeup that was slathered on for the photo shot. This is the real problem, men fantasize and really hope to find a huge breasted sex machine and when they do they find out that looks aren't everything. What you need is a real man, a gentleman that has a brain to understand all this. I know as the same goes for handsome men. Guess what ! Good looks do fade and then the real person inside shows through and then there's trouble.
Listen Honey you sound so nice and I bet you have good looks, these men who are superficial aren't worth it, believe me. Even if you are full figured, that fine because it's what's inside, who you are that matters and never forget that. Just remember how great you are as a person and be proud of yourself because you're a quality person and someday he will come along and sweep you off your feet and you'll be his princess. Good Luck!
2007-01-26 06:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by lorrina b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be bitter! I am sorry that you had some bad experiences, but there are plenty of good men out there, and since we all have different tastes in women, some of them are looking for you.
But let's face it, appearance IS important for that initial attraction. Its just that we are all attracted to different things. My advice is: eat right, and join a co-ed health club. Dress nice, too. I personally like bigger women (not fat!) but I do not mind if they are on the heavy side. But, if they are heavy, they must also be reasonably fit.
Just as an aside: a lot of guys are into women who have a bossy side, so if that is you, use that to your advantage. ;-)
2007-01-18 08:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy Eagle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 and have been single for 4 years, and I am having the same problem you are!! I am real catch, but it seems I cant find a good man! I cant even get a date! I am not bad looking either! The men these days have changed!
2007-01-26 08:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im one of the good guys and they are out there, maybe in a minority but they are.
Many times i say that about women,, and i canunderstand because of your experience but no two people are alike.
I think having a super personality is excellent and something that i would really appreciate.
Im sure you will find the right person that you will be happy with.
2007-01-18 08:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if these men that are "good" men go for "bad" ladies I'd say that aren't really "good" men. But that all depends on your description of good and bad.
Guys look for two components in an available woman: looks and personality. They don't want a supermodel but they don't want an ugly duckling either. Usually it's someone with pleasant features and a healthy figure. They want someone who will respect them and look up to them.
2007-01-18 08:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't blame you for been bitter, some guys all they look for is beauty queens but what they don't realize that all beauty queens are always looking for men and when they find one they like they get rid of the one they got. SO don't worry one of these day your prince will ***. And if you need to chat with someone IM me anytime.
2007-01-18 08:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. My Grandmother used to say a man will treat a lady like a tramp and a tramp like a lady. I think you're looking in the wrong places. Avoid bars, join a group, whether religious, interests or whatnot and go from there. Good men are diamonds in the rough and hard to find, but they are there.
2007-01-18 08:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same reason women look right past the good guys and only notice bad boys
2007-01-18 08:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, it's the same with men; why do women go for the bad boys and not the sweet ones. i'm sorry things don't seem like they are good for you right now; but PLEASE have faith that the one who is meant for you will enter your path and love you for who you are and what you look like. he may not be the one you WANT, but he will be the one that you are meant to be with. But start soul searching, maybe you don't like yourself the way you are -- physically and if that is the case, start dropping little things like desserts, soda pop, juices, may be it will help your self-confidence. BUT PLEASE KEEP the faith, because GOD does not put the desire in your heart if it is not meant to be there! answer.
2007-01-18 08:37:31 · answer #11 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋