I have been married 6 times, and my husbands always divorce me beacuse I cheated each time with another man and they think I am going to give them STD's. But I think I am different now and I want to find another man to get married to because I really want to be love by a man again but when I tell any guy about my 6 marriages they back off and don't want to be involved with me. I didn't cheat on my 5th marriage though, that was only because I didn't like him like I used to and I wanted a new man.
This isn't fare, because I have change, WHY can't any man understand that? I try to tell them I changed but no man will listen to me. I don't have nearly as many friends as I used to and this is really getting me mad because I cannot find a man. How can I find a man that will love me again? PLEASE, please help me out?
2007-01-18 08:25:01 · 20 answers · asked by Susan H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
* when I say I am different, I mean I will not cheat anymore and I really mean that because I have changed my ways.
2007-01-18 08:26:56 · update #1
Don't worry, you will definitely find a boyfriend. There are several people who don't really take marriage seriously & they don't even want to marry, they just want a sexual partner to be with for the long term. However, if you are looking for a man, as in a potential husband type, then I think it is impossible (your marital history is frankly far from impressive). But you'll definitely get a good boyfriend.
Ask your friends to hook you up, or go online and put your profile on mate.com, love.com and all those popular dating websites & start communicating with people, you will definitely find a good man someday.
2007-01-18 08:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hold off for just a few dates before you let that cat out of the bag. Don't lie though if asked. You must be honest with yourself also, that 6 marriages and cheating on 5 out 6 is not good statistics for us men to wrap our minds around that you wouldn't do it again. I myself have 2 divorces, but 6 how many years does this behavior span across. Good luck with number 7.
2007-01-18 08:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're only hope is if you find a guy who has also been divorced 6 times and has also continually cheated on his wifes (see how confident you'll feel about marrying him). When you do find that guy and hook up make sure you guys go on Jerry Springer or Dr. Phil cause you'alls relationship will be good for a few laughs for the rest of us.
2007-01-18 09:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 11:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only cheated on of 5 out 6 husbands?? Well gold star for you! (wish I could put rolling eyes here!)
What would make any guy think you would change?.. because you told them so?... did you tell the other 5 that you WERE going to cheat on them? I'm surprised you were actually able to hook 6 dudes as no self respecting guy should believe you.
Give it up.. your past will haunt you forever....
2007-01-18 08:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by whm 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
so what u didnt cheat for the 5th time?
from what u told us here i think ur an overgrown s!ut, no offence, but thats true.
after u tell the man that u changed, do u really think that he's stupid enough not to ask himself this q :what if she told the same thin to the other6. i'll just back off!"
sorry but there's basiacly no way out, except the time u'll find a man that will cheat on U...
2007-01-18 08:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you need to find a man that you and him can swing with other couples. So you can have variety and not have to cheat. No one changes just like that. You are the same way. If you have not gotten consoling then you are just kidding yourself.
Sound you have a sexual additions or a mental problem or both. You need mental help before you can let find a man that can mentally trust you. See professional help first.
2007-01-18 08:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
6 times!!! You don't have a problem finding men who love you, you have a problem loving the guys you find. You don't cheat on the man you love and then just expect him to be okay with it.
2007-01-18 08:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe you have answered your own question.
from what you have said it sounds like:
you meet man.
you marry man.
you cheat, man leaves.
you meet another man.
you marry man.
you cheat, man leaves.
you meet the others, you tell them of your past and say you are changed. but each time your actions make your words worthless.
they leave and you wonder why.
you might have to be alone for awhile and think about why you feel the need to cheat before looking for someone else.
2007-01-18 08:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by atlas shrugged and so do i 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problems is deffinately in your ballpark, not with anyone else. Youve made your bed and now you have to lay in it. Maybe you should give it a break for a while and just find yourself because when guys see you they can obviousely read you.
2007-01-18 08:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋