I have a large family, and have started to have feelings for a close relative, is this ok?

Question

I sometimes spy on them while they are in the bathroom.

Answer 1

No, it's not alright and you just admitted to being a peeping Tom. You should seek some help.

Answer 2

You shouldn't be spying on anyone in the bathroom! That's an invasion of privacy. As for a close relative, how close? Sibling? Cousin? You're out of luck if it's a sibling, but some places still allow first cousins to marry. There are plenty of non-related people out there, though. Move on!

Answer 3

Just relative .. As long as no blood related - and for your spying on them while they're in the bathroom - that's wrong dude ! But that also depends on your family tradition. Like my family, we're asain and we're very strict about that - GOod luck to you and stop spying on them while they're in the bathroom man - that's really sick!

Answer 4

In some states I think it is illegal to have relations with a relative! As for your spying...the bathroom is the one place that should be PRIVATE! Maybe you should keep it up, you could see something that will turn you off. That's just gross...

Answer 5

How close of a relative? If it is first cousin or FARTHER away then you could pursue a relationship. Anything closer than 1st cousin is incest. Even a step-sibling (while the marriage that made you brother and sister is still intact) is considered incest.

edit - Stop spying on them in the bathroom, that is wrong.

Answer 6

Unless you're from West Virginia, get help. Spying on "them" in the bathroom is voyuerism. Although some curiosity is normal and we're all voyeurs to some extent, hanging around the bathroom may be crossing the line.

Answer 7

No this is not okay. It would be best for you to talk to a professional person before something bad happens. My best friend works for a specialist in this field so I know it is very private and safe to get some help with an issue such as this. Don't be afraid call someone tommorow.

Answer 8

If you are an adult that clearly knows the boundaries, then no, its not okay. If its a sister, I would definetly be freaked out.
If you are a kid, and its like your second cousin that hangs out with you alot, no, its not that weird, my boyfriend's sister married her cousin.Imagine, your grandchild is your 4th cousin....
Yeah, now thats weird.
If you feel it interrupts with your relationship with your family, or that your family might not react that good to it, if you told them, then its probably a bad thing.

Be cautious in what you post on the internet.

Answer 9

Dude thats messed up man you shouldn't be spying on your relatives man thats kinda freaky.

Answer 10

Feelings are natural and to be able to manage them greatly depends on your understandings of them. Usually if you can pinpoint where they are coming from and the reason why they are there they are more easily dealt with. Also just because you feal one way does not mean you need to make decisions based on the way you feal opposed to a decision you make with logic. I am often guilty of making decisions with my heart instead of my head,and usually it screws me up because later i feal different. If I would chose with my logic I think a more positive outcome would have happened. Nobody is wrong for their inner fealings,it only becomes right or wrong when you act on them when you should think on them first. Even then sometimes you have to acknowledge your feelings for what they are,feal them and make yourself let them go. thats all i can say. only you know whats right for you.