I'd like some examples of custom wedding vows. Anyone write their own wedding vows? If so, what did they say? I just need some ideas, as I am not satisfied with the traditional: "In the name of God, I, __ take you, __ to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part. This is my solemn vow." All input welcome, thanks.
2007-01-18 08:12:30 · 13 answers · asked by Desiree 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am not much of a creative writer, so I had a friend of mine write our vows. She is quite amazing when it comes to writing, ans she came up with what I thought were beautiful vows. Here's a part of it (we had a pirate-themed wedding, this is why the vows are about the sea):
"For centuries, sailors have fallen in love with the sea and in many ways; the sea is much like love itself. It is in a state of constant change, motion and evolution, forever adapting to its environment. And yet at the same time, like love, the sea is ancient and unchanging.
William Shakespeare wrote “My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep. The more I give thee, the more I have, for both are infinite.”
And like the sea, love inspires us with its beauty, comforts us with its gentleness, awes us with its strength and challenges us with its tempests.
Like the waves of the ocean, love has its highs and lows. You will go through many of them in a lifetime of marriage. Remember that one wave is a fleeting as another and that all of them will one day pass.
Cherish every high point and every day that your sea sparkles in the sunlight. Remember them as you help each other weather dark and difficult storms together.
Marriage is the bond of loyalty that will give you the strength and determination to weather the storms that will inevitably come.
Marriage makes a crew of two individuals and becomes the ship that will carry them over the highest waves and safely across the deepest seas.
Like any ship, a marriage must be cared for. Of the many duties that demand time in your lives, prioritize none of them above tending to this ship that is your marriage. Make time to give it the care it needs, treating both the sea and the ship with the awe and respect that both deserve.
A well-tended ship will stay afloat and weather the storms of her passage. Whereas a ship that has been ignored and left to decay cannot withstand the challenges of the sea and will eventually break apart.
Let your ship be the example that others look to and may the care of this ship not be a chore to you, but a labor of your love."
Etc, on to the part where we swear to be with each other til one of us is lost to the Davy Jones Locker and all that good stuff.
Maybe you have a friend who's a good writer, you could ask them to help you!
2007-01-18 08:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Rather than each of you feeling the need to 'wow' everyone with something super meaningful and sweet written for each other, look at some sample vows online together, and take bits and pieces that are meaningful to you. Put them together so that you have unique vows, but both say the same thing to each other, without the last minute panic that his vows will be better than yours and vice versa! You might want to check if you're being married in a church to see if there are requirements for what you can and cannot say.
2016-03-29 03:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Collect some you like either from books or on line to get "the feel" of what they are saying.
Then go someplace quiet & write from your heart. Be yourself but be aware of your wording. Then give it a rest, but save those drafts.
When you go back to writing there will be some prizes among those drafts. Now write your vow. Make it no longer than a minute as any longer & people think you just like to hear yourself talk. If you have more to say, save it for private time.
Since you are writing your vows your Officiant should ask you the "question of intent", the " do you take" part. Therefore your vows can be whatever you wish to say.
2007-01-18 08:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Start off by simply writing down every positive thing that comes to mind about your impending wedding and your future...don't sweat form just yet...let your mind just dump onto the page. Even the most trivial and odd things will help spark a creative flow.
Once you have your collection of thoughts, try to organize them in a coherent way. At this point begin winnowing out the bits that don't seem to belong anymore (there will be quite a few)...
What you end with will surely suggest a direction to go in creating a heartfelt declaration of your love, devotion, hopes and dreams.
Do not "over-write" it. Use your own voice. You aren't bloody Shakespeare and shouldn't try to sound as if you were.
Congrats.
2007-01-18 08:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by mmd 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
talk about what you felt when yous frist met, saying that you knew right away that you would marry him and that he was going to be the one. Explain that you know that the road head will be filled with some rough patches but you know no matter what comes your way that yous will make it threw because you have faith, love and the commitment that will keep yous strong no matter what is thrown at you. Say how you feel about him, say that the touch of his hand the look in his eye you know that everything is going to be right and that you and him are meant to be. God had a plan and knew that yous would be together even before yous were even born. Just open your heart, be honest and true.
2007-01-18 15:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you look to those traditional vows for inspriation, make them more personal, reword them, jazz um up! ! Make them apply to the 2 of you. I love to see couple write their own vows, but I hate it when they leave out the platform principles of marriage that are included in the traditional vows. You need to pledge to be with him no matter what even if that means he gets cancer and goes bankrupt, you need rto pledge to be faithful only to him until the end, thats pretty important don't you think!? Don't be afraid to elaborate, but don't forget the basis of marriage either! good luck and congrats!
2007-01-18 08:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God place our souls knowing that one day the earth would stand
still and our two souls would find each other. With hope, love, and guidance from god we have a reach a point where we have to share this love with the world. We stand here in the presence of god for him to witness our love and two souls become one. May our love and respect for each other be as forgiving and gentle has his hand. and May our lives together be a reflection of this day, full of friends family and love. I love you and will always love you until the end of our days.
2007-01-18 08:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by ... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my wife and I both wrote our wedding vows over 20 yrs ago---and for the life of me I dont remember what we wrote. I do know that we liked what we said to each other and I suggest you keep it simple and write what is in your heart about your future hubby---good luck and there is no right or wrong answers. Blessings
2007-01-18 08:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yup...ours were personal, but some examples are:
If I loved you forever
It wouldn’t be enough time
You have given me so much
More than I deserve
I promise to repay you
With tenderness
Honesty
And eternal undying love
I promise you
To stand by your side
Whatever life brings
To always make you happy
And never regret loving me
You are my angel
I truly love you
On this day we marry
I swear to you
My eternal love
My everlasting devotion
I promise to protect you
To never harm you
To understand your needs.
I treasure your smile
So will strive to keep it
I love your eyes
So will keep them happy
I worship your body
So will try to keep it well
You are my heart
My life
My soul
I love you
Whatever the future
I know this
We are one
And strong in our love,
Today you gave me
The best gift, you!
I will treasure my gift
And guard with my life
I adore you
Thank you
For being you
And loving me
2007-01-18 09:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by designz51 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try these websites:
http://www.bwedd.com/couples/sample_vows.asp
http://www.web-wedding.com/planning/vows.html
They help you outline and design the whole thing.
2007-01-18 08:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca T 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋