Is it ok that your bf/gf text message alot with his bestfriend & shes a girl?

Question

my boyfriendf text messages alot with his best friend shes a girl and they know each other since little kids.let say she or he would text messages from 6am till 12pm his in school,and shes in her school.so yeah i kinda get alittle jelouse,they only talk on the phone for 30 minutes or 55 minutes once or twice a week. is this normal?has anyone ever been in this situation.what should i do?i know she doesnt like him.she like some other guy in her school and his very inlove with me.but still it kinda bothers me :( jelouse me...

we been together for a yr and i know who she is,but i get kinda jelouse..

he tells me that im his bestfriends,we tell each other everything..he really doesnt tell that much to his friend now.. but to me coz we are so close.he considers her his bestfriend too coz they know each other since little kids,and when she has a school problem or she talks to him,he tells me everything he does..he also told me not to be bothered is not like he talks to her everyday for hours which is true he doesnt he always with me and talks with me but you know during school hrs she texts him.usual text messages saying hi,how r u,wut u doing,im bored,jokes or somethings..u know but still feel jeoulse.

my boyfriend has no sisters just brothers,and shes the only child.

me and my boyfriend talk for hours,all day.afterschool.sometimes during school between classes. at night.. everyday.. we been together for 1YR but you know it get me jelouse just coz he talks to her for 30 minutes or 55 minutes once or twice a week.when he talks to ME EVERYDAY..gosh i just kinda feel jelouse sometimes..

Answer 1

You have asked a very good question and also need to learn that you are just a beginner in his life. You say his best friend is a girl and he never told you else wise. He was up front and honest with you about his friendship with her. Just being his girlfriend answers that you accepted it at first. You were ok with it. Now you want to change it. It is normal to be jealous but you have to realize that he has had this life way before you came into it. The hardest part of a relationship is to understand your emotions, about his actions. If you want to keep this guy you have to let him be him. You have to understand your place in his life. He has to understand your emotional inadequacies about him and yourself. If you like or love him then you need to understand that he is honest with you. Sure he should curtail talking to his friend, but that should come in time. His best friend is a girl like a sister. You would not want to come between his sister and him, would you? Just hang in there with him. Let him be him and he has to let you be you. The best way to keep a good relationship is to let the other in the relationship live his life. Good Luck

Answer 2

All you have to trust him, thats very important. They just happened to be good friends for long time and you can't break that. Its ok to be jealous but don't do too much drama about that. I am glad that you let them to stay friends because other girls would give problems for that. So text message a lot, mmm maybe she needs some help or he needs some help. Ignore about that. As long he spend times with you. If he does that front of you, like ignore you, you should tell him that you are here and you should not be ignored by him.

Answer 3

Yeah I've been in this situation before, but i got over it because i trusted him and he as been friend with her since like birth. Anyway i think you should spend less time worrying about him and more time in the books. Because its obvious that you need to learn how to spell. I've never seen this word (Jelouse) before in my life. This word correct spelling is (jealous) .While you at it try reading a English book or two and learn proper punctuation and how to avoid run-on- sentences. LEAVE THOSE BOYS ALONE.......

Answer 4

I think that since they have been friend for how long now... If they were going to due something I don't think that you would even be in the picture. If he loves you and you love him back and both of you feel each others love then with shouldn't be a problem.Have you told him how you feel. That might help.

Answer 5

Ok, its just he bestfriend. And like you said they have known eachother since they were little. I dont think that you should be worried, its ok for you to be jealous, someother girl is talking to your b/f almost more then you are. I say just dont be worried. Its normal, if your bff was a boy and your b/f was jealous what would you do? And you know that he is in love with you, and she has someother man in her life. Dont worrie.

Answer 6

If you are confident with your relationship then be confindent with theirs. You could always tell him it bothers you a bit. Then he may slow it down a little. But be aware that he will probably stand up for his relationship with her. But that is because they have known each other for EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

i think its okay.. i mean im assuming he fill you in on this since you know that he's doing it. You also know that she likes some other dude and he is in love with you. I txt a lot of other girls and my gf is fine with it. I told her about them and also introduced most of them to her.

Answer 8

Its normal to feel jealous because he is paying attn to another girl when he should be paying attn to you. He should limit his communications to a few times a week and when you are not with him that way it doesnt interfere with your "you and him" time.

Answer 9

If you can't accept the fact that your guy has a friend who's a girl early in the relationship, perhaps you shouldn't be with him. Either accept it for what it is, or move on.

Answer 10

no need to be jealous. your boyfriend should be your best friend. likewise you should be his very best friend. it's strange how he's sharing so much with this old friend. he'd be worried if you texted another guy that much. tell him you are bothered! this sounds strange