My guy friend has always been my friend but we have so much more in comen than we thought and one day are hands met and we were both speachless. I want to tell him how i feel but what if he gets freaked out. HELP ME!!!
2007-01-18 08:07:49 · 33 answers · asked by Phyched4Christ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is any kind of friend (even if his feelings for you are not the same) he will listen.
2007-01-18 08:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Roger J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that you're treading on thin ice with this situation. On one hand, relationships are always better if the person you're with is your best friend. I have learned though that the relationship is built first and the friendship follows. On the other hand, if you're best friends going into a relationship there are completely different hurdles that both of you will need to get over. There are boundaries that are set in friendships and there are boundaries that are set in relationships... and these can vary drastically. It's the same with comfort levels... you both will need to figure out the difference between what you were comfortable with before and what is acceptable now. The best tip I can give you is to stay open, honest, and keep talking. No one gets anywhere if lines are crossed and people aren't being understood. It may be akward at first, but in time sharing will become second nature. Just be careful because once the friendship line has been crossed... it's rare that you both will be able to step back into that zone if things don't go as planned.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 08:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really were BOTH speachless, then it sounds like he might have the same feelings. A relationship based on mutual feelings is much better and longer lasting than one based on infatuation. You might want to ask him where he would like your relationship to go and if he thinks it could ever become more than it is now.
2007-01-18 08:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by Moesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you can do one of two things to see how he feels...
You can go out on a limb and take a chance and tell him how you feel.
OR
You can move in slow, casually ask him on a date without saying the "date" word.... then casually make a move here and there, like moving closer, holding hands... if ur walking in the dark do the "oh, im cold and scared, Hold me!" thing...just put substancial moves out there and really watch his reactions. If he doesnt keep it going then u know he just wants to be friends... and if he does....well ur really lucky ;)
...Remember, you have a 50/50 chance! Take it or regret it!
Take care. Best wishes!
2007-01-18 08:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Elley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the very best in relationships going. You don't have to say anything. Take his hand next time, look in his eyes and smile, thinking what you feel. Look in his eyes. You'll have your answer without one word passing. If it's good ( and you'll know) dont' say a word. Give him a tender kiss on the lips.
If you must absolutely say something, try, " I wasn't really expecting this, but I like it."
If you are as in sync as you indicate, he's thinking the same thoughts as you.
and, if he does freak out.....laugh and say, " Gotcha" and let it pass and keep being friends....but he's not going to freak.
You are blessed.
2007-01-18 08:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by James M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, slooow down grasshopper. The best way to handle it is just casually bring up about how he sees the two of you; ex: "It's so great we are great friends, I can't imagine what it would be like if we got a lot more closer"...something like that; that way you can see his reaction and hear what he says. Those are the two key things right there. You might be suprised; if you close your eyes waiting to hear his answer; he might just kiss you! Good luck!
2007-01-18 08:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him! It's better to know how he feels about you, rather than be left wondering. If he truly is your friend, he will be honest and whether he likes you as more than a friend or not, you two will still stay friends, even if it's awkward at first. If he likes you as more than a friend, won't you be glad you had the courage to ask? Believe me, I know about this firsthand. Good luck!!!
2007-01-18 08:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Greenteagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats 50/50 chance. But you have to decide if its worth ruining a friendship for a crush. You sound young and if you are then probably dating him is only going to give you one less friend. But that is a decision you have to make.
2007-01-18 08:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by holykrikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. It will get a load off your shoulders, but not too much at one time. Get to know him even more, and spend more time with him. He'll get the picture soon. Good Luck in the long run!
XOXO,
Miss Rachel
2007-01-18 08:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up front with him and say I feel that there is some chemistry between us. Is it just me or do you feel it to? I know it is very hard to ask that question but if you are hoping that he will become your boyfriend and he is just not that into you, you will be wasting precious time. I know because it happened to my son. He never said that to his friend/girl friend and she just wasted 4 years hoping for something more.
2007-01-18 08:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by KAREN P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop a subtle hint in something you do, or say.
Mabye make a joke about the two of you going on a date, then watch how he reacts.
If he laughs, then he doesn't feel toward you in that way, but if he says "ok", then he likes you.
2007-01-18 08:10:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋