I HAVE A FRIEND WHO IS GETTING MARRIED. SHE IS A BORN AGAIN BELIEVER AND HER FIANCE DOESN'T BELIEVE IN GOD, OH AND SHE'S PREGNANT...........ANY ADVICE I COULD GIVE A FRIEND? SHE IS CONFUSED.......
2007-01-18 08:01:22 · 21 answers · asked by just me 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yeah i mispelled yoke........and this was advice asked for, it is not me that is confused, but it is hard to give someone advice on something you don't have experience in
2007-01-18 08:23:21 · update #1
Well it looks like she stuck now. She going to have to learn the hard way.
2007-01-18 08:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by ۞ JønaŦhan ۞ 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Another answered that she shouldn't get married just for the baby's sake. So true. Then there is the possibility that the child will suffer a bad home life if the marriage doesn't excel and then a divorce, as well. The 1st boo-boo was the premarital sex. Too late to worry w/ that now though. The whole "unequally yoked" part is, indeed, dealing with oxen. If the oxen are to pull the "same load" in the "same direction" they must both be equal. In other words, she'll be striving for Heaven. Even though it's sad, he'll be routed towards Hell unless he makes it right. So she'll always be trying to convince him of what's right while he's steadily pulling her down. Even worse, the child will be in the middle. And what will the child's belief system be in that situation? My opinion, don't marry. It'll only complicate it all more. She should give him time to work on himself and never compromise her God. The Bible says to set our minds on Heavenly things and that will be impossible in a marriage without Him. (Ever heard the poem "Marriage Takes Three?" If not, look it up.) In the meantime, she shouldn't give up on her baby's father, but continue to witness to him and, by all means, pray for him. The Bible also says that the unsaved may be saved by our example. They will desire to have the happiness, peace, etc. that we get from Him. Once again, the most important thing is to never compromise God. He is a jealous one. Good luck and your friend will be in my prayers.
2007-01-18 08:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by ashlynmadelynmommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a couple is unequally yoked and one of them is a Christian, namely the wife, the bible says that by her holiness and her actions, she can win her husband to Christ. Just pray for them constantly and let God do the rest. Boy did you get some sucky answers. Just don't judge her, it sounds like you haven't. We are all human and the best is yet to come when we have love and support. The bible says to not be unequally yoked, yes, but it also offers a prescription as the LORD knew there would be those who fell in love with people of different beliefs and backgrounds. I hope she feels better. She should be as stress and worry free during her pregnancy as possible. I have a friend who married a guy who was on the fence as far as Islam and now he is a Christian. Things got real for him after he was in Kuwait for almost 2 years, then Afganistan. We prayed a lot for him. He now teaches Bible classes. Peace.
2007-01-18 08:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well why would she want to marry a non believer? Yes the Bible says to not be unequally yoked with non believers- including marriage.
But here is a verse on women who are married and are born again, and their husbands are not believers- I do not know if this pertains to women who get saved after they get married, or if they marry someone who is not saved....But read 1 Peter 3:1-2
I just think its strange she would want to marry someone who is not a believer in Christ, that is like having one foot in the world and one foot in the word of God...and you cannot have both. That would be a great struggle for her if she truly loves the Lord. You can tell her that. Has she shared the gospel with this guy? Is he just completely hard at heart and does not want anything to do with God? That would really make me want to leave him and not marry him. For the Bible even says after we have shared the word if they refuse to listen or do not believe to "shake the dust from our feet" and move on.
2007-01-18 08:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her and her fiance, as well as for their marriage. They never should have come this far-- she should have consulted 2 Corinthians 14's verses about this. But since she is pregnant, this really complicates things. They should go ahead and get married because this is the only way for the child to have a legitimate father, and then all we can do is pray that God will work through her so that her husband can also see the light and believe in Him. The worst thing for her to do would be to break up with him. That way, she will have nothing except a fatherless child. Good luck to her!
2007-01-18 08:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by reba 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she has a very tough road to hoe now. A non-believer doesn't know that God is love, which is a bonding principle in marriage, rather than worldly and physical excitement. Without both partners on the same page in the beginning, there is a lot of room for different life paths, dreams, desires, etc., which tend to kill communication and trust. When times get tough, what will keep a non-believer from walking away from the marriage? This is why it would be nice to have him find God for himself sooner rather than later. But your friend will not be able to change him, but only show him light and hope he understands enough to turn to it. I wish her the best.
2007-01-18 08:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"unequally yoked marriage"
1. She doesn't have to get married just because she is pregnant.
2. If she's not ready for a child, adoption is a perfectly acceptable choice.
3. Compromise is a part of any marriage.
2007-01-18 08:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always find it funny when Christian say Yolk instead of Yoke. You can tell they weren't reading along in church.
If she is uncomfortable getting married to an un-believer then her fiance should dump her. That's the advice I'd give.
2007-01-18 08:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
WHO GIVE A FLYING ____ IF SOMEONE FOLLOW A DIFFERENT BELIEF GET OVER IT!!!
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Did I touch a nerve with you? aww...
2007-01-18 08:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by obscure 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my grandmother was always a Christan, my grandfather was not but before he died he accepted Christ I believe that nothing is too big or impossible for God leave it up to Him, she'll find if what she is doing is right or wrong and the bible says what God has put together let no man put apart!
2007-01-18 08:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by sunistao 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Advise? It's a bit late but the best advise for your friend would have been to use contraception. Maybe next time.
The best advise for you is to not give unsolicited advise. It's seldom helpful. If she asks you for advise you might mention that shotgun weddings seldom last.
2007-01-18 08:08:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋