i was in this relationship with this guy and we were together for a long time but he was terrible in bed and the only way he would be good is if i threatened to leave him. he was cheating on and off. i couldnt take it anymore so i went to the club and fell in love at first site. kissed this guy for 2 hours straight. we got really close and i left the cheater for this guy. we moved in together but then he coudnt keep a job so i moved out told him he needed to get his act together. so instead of getting a job he found another women older 40ish to pay his bills meantime he kept crying telling me how much e loved me. he bought me a ingagement ring i told him to send it back if he cant keep a job and he keeps finding suger ma mas. i really loved him so much. he had it so hard here in fl i told him to move back to la with his family. he did but then he kept losing jobs and calling me telling me he loved me. i found out he had a gf there too she is also older 39.his gf told me they engaged
2007-01-18 07:52:04 · 13 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-18 07:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get over some one if you really want to! For a time it feels like you never will, but honeslty, believe me you do eventually. You sound like a good strong charachter and responsible, to be able to tell him to keep a job. If you do get back with him dont give up telling him. You dont want someone relying on you financially all the time. I cant tell you if you should get with him or not, but I will say that I believe whats meant to be will happen, and you can get over love, its just a bit hard x
2007-01-18 16:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by hurricane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite an interesting little snippet of life there....who is in love with who? As it doesn't sound like you love anyone, ditching them unless they perform in the workplace or bed.
You seem to have such a pragmatic outlook, I can't suspect that you feel emotional about anything.
So what is the actual problem, you've kicked him out for being a bum, he has shacked up with the first person who'll have him but he keeps trying his luck with you (I take it you have money, but God only knows how with your woeful spelling).
What was the question again?
2007-01-18 16:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If only it was that easy to give you a simple answer to help you get over this guy. Unfortunately no one but yourself can help you do this.
From what you have said this guy does not sound like he deserves you or your love.
You will never forget him but trust me when i say you will get over him eventually. You need to be patient and try to move on with your life without being dragged down by this guy who does not deserve you in the first place.
Good luck babe xxx
2007-01-18 16:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really get over someone you really loved with all your heart. You just have to hold your head up and carry on with what is the best for you. In ten years you will still feel for this guy and feel for him. Its hard, but keep in mind it will get better with time.
2007-01-18 16:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by KATIE K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get over someone. Sounds like he's not for you anyway, this guy is just playing you so I'm sorry but its time to move on and don't worry there will be someone out there for you just give it time. It will happen when you least expect it.
2007-01-18 16:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really honest with yourself; you will know that keeping in touch with this chap is the sure road to ruin.
Don't you let it take away the prospect of a real and lasting relationship with someone more able to be responsible.
2007-01-18 15:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by ukpreference 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in at relationship once, i fell in love at first sight, everything ws perfect. i loved him. then everything went pear shaped, he started getting a thing for under-age school girls and it broke my heart. depression set in, i was cutting myself and crying myself to sleep every night. i did everything i could to split him and this school girl up, even called the police on his sorry ***.
that was 3 years ago now, oh, i knew hwat he was, but i still loved him,still wanted him to hold me in his arms....Now, when i see him i look at him and think
what the hell was i thinking
well, what i'm trying to say is
time heals pain, you've probably heard it before, but it is true, it took a few years, but i'm over him now... i've moved on in life... i'm a different person now, the person i was befor ei met him... give it time, hell, change your number, make no contact with him, everything will be ffine in the end, there's somone else out there for you
2007-01-19 07:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by Almida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats real tuff hun
u need 2 cut contact with him, if he really loved u he would do anything 2 be with u & make the relationship work..
get out & find some1 who will treat u with respect & love u like u need 2 be loved
good luck & take care
2007-01-18 15:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by jls_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is the only healer... the more you liked the person, the longer and harder it'll be to get over them...
start doing things to occupy your mind and keep you busy... expand your circle of friends and just keep your spirits up... you'll get there... good luck...
2007-01-18 18:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by muppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never get over him completely. He'll always have a place in your heart.
2007-01-18 15:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋