When I met my ex-fiance he was devastated.He was engaged and it didn't work out between them so they split up.We got together after a while but he's a very weird person I should say.We started arguing long before we started dating and as we got together the arguements got even worse to the point that I thought about everything I did knowing that it might lead to that.The problems got worse and worse.He would freak out by only hearing some guy in the background that I don't even know.He was very persistent but our worse problem was the fact that I'm a very bz person.Most of the time I would have to cancel our dates.He would freak out if I go to sleep without sweet talking him and would show up to my mom's uninvited and refuse to leave and much more and I broke up with him because the relationship depressed me so I want to know wether i'm wrong or right,although he believes that God put us together.Am I wrong for not believing that God put us together anymore?
2007-01-18 07:37:52 · 32 answers · asked by Alina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can break up with someone for whatever reason you want.....if the relationship makes you feel unhappy best to end it before marriage in my opinion
2007-01-18 07:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mum3grls 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me state my opinion by saying....No, you're definitely not wrong for believing what you believe.
It sounds like your ex fiance didn't really have the best communication skills on the planet. In order to make a relationship work, you really need two basic things (love excluded from this particular conversation), which are: trust and communication.
It already sounds like you lacked both from the very start. I think if you want to have any kind of closure with him, you really ought to consider having a conversation with him and tell him why you feel this relationship did not work out. Don't let him steer the conversation towards him. Just politely ask him to listen and accept that the fact that its for all these reasons why you feel you cannot be with him. Remind him that these are YOUR feelings and they're not likely going to be changed. I have a feeling that he's the type of person that may try to argue all of your points and will probably end up trying to pick a fight, rather than let it rest and move on.
I think the important thing here is to make the right decision for you. It's not selfish to want to be respected and have a loving relationship. Nor should it be the will of God to force you into anything you don't feel right about.
Well, I hope that my opinion helps, and that you get everything worked out!
2007-01-18 07:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by allthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear people should be happiest during their engagement because after marriage the burdens of "running" a house and making it a home and balancing careers and future children will take a heavy toll on the married couple and if they're not strong it will end ugly...and your ex gives all the signs that when things get rough he'll become even worse since he's already acting badly in such an early stage of marriage and commitment.
he's very possessive, jealous, and clingy and it's really very very hard to make others change no matter how much they love you or you love them.
you should always marry someone with whose faults you can live with for the rest of your life because just like the good things about their character there will always be something bad and both won't really change.
2007-01-18 07:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by fate_n83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you are unhappy, then what you did was right. You can not sacrifice your happiness for a mans happiness. Do you think he would if it were the other way around? I doubt it. Go with your heart. He sounds like a psycho and if its hard getting rid of him now, imagine how hard it will be later on in the future. And to tell you the truth, it does appear as if he will ever get off of your back. Remember this is only the beginning of what it will be. I think you decided right.
And if he uses the line, that you will never meet another guy like him. YOU WILL. THERE IS PLENTY OF MEN OUT THERE!
2007-01-18 07:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When God gives you something special you will do everything that you can to take care of it. I can't say that God didn't put you to together but I can say thats not how a women should be treated in Gods eyes. He sees us as being precious and beautiful. So just pray about it because I have learned from experience that God can change any man that wants to be changed. Who knows what the future holds but for now I would take a break from each other and make sure its what you and him want.
2007-01-18 07:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by yoka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the foundation of which a relationship is built on determines whether the relationship will work. From the information you gave at the beginning of your question, it seems that the foundation was very rocky to begin with. I don't believe you were wrong for breaking up. As far as him believing God put the both of you together...if you have your own personal relationship with God, then you will know whether or not that is true.
2007-01-18 07:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by ??? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm impressed that you have the courage to make the tough decisions that you know are right for you. I hope you won't let him persuade you otherwise. There are too many indications that you wouldn't be happy in a lifelong relationship with this guy and life is too short to be otherwise. God may have put you together for any number of reasons, maybe he was only meant to be a good friend, or maybe you were meant to learn lessons from this relationship. In any event, you seem to have made the right choice.
2007-01-18 07:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok.....i dont know if he will take you back or not. But what you should have done was talk to him. Sit him down and tell him all of your problems. If he gets upset then let him know that you want these problems fixed because you loved him and wanted it to work out between you guys. And if it still doesn't work, then see a consular. Just make sure that he knows it's only for the best because you love him so much. Then, prove it to him. ;-)
2007-01-18 07:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you two really serious about getting married? Settling down? Owning a home together, making a budget, paying bills, saving for emergencies and retirement, mowing the yard, grocery shopping, car payments, laundry, fixing the furnace when it breaks, etc etc? Can you see the two of you in that picture? If not, then you did the right thing to end it.
2007-01-18 07:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by lifeisagift 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did what you had to do. I support you. If God really put you together, you wouldve been together. You should be happy and comfortable i a relationship. This guy is wierd. He should trust you and understand your career demands. And he needs to grow up as well. You will find someone who deserves you and make you happy. Way to go, you did good. All the best
2007-01-18 07:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by bangles121 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that relationships are supposed to be something you should be comfortable in, not depressed or anxious He sounds a little too jealous and possessive (a little jealousy is an acceptable thing). I think that in the long run that relationship may have caused you more problems, so you were wise to break it off.
2007-01-18 07:45:57 · answer #11 · answered by Chay D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋