my fiance can not leave his ex girlfriend alone they talk and sometimes secretly go out. what should i do?

Answer 1

Break up. It's not going to work if he can't leave her alone. Tell him to make a choice. If he chooses you, leave him if he has any more contact with her. If he chooses her, at least you found out before you got married.

Answer 2

I'm glad the phone company is willing to block her number free of charge, that will help until she figures it out, then all she has to do it call from a different number. What I would do, is install caller id, if they don't already have it. Then use the answering machine or voice mail to screen unfamiliar numbers. If it's a call you needed to take, then simply call them right back. He needs to quit giving her the attention though. He needs to simply quit responding to her, period. Don't answer the emails, don't return the text messages, screen incoming phone calls. Block her email and phone numbers wherever he can. Yeah, it's kind of irritating, but it's really the only way she's going to quit. People like her though, if you respond even once, they'll keep at it. Each time he "goes off" on her just feeds her need for the attention. It's really sad when you think about it, that this chick needs any kind of attention, even negative attention. Quit giving it to her, and she'll eventually look elsewhere for it. I hope that works. Otherwise I would say his next option is to file a restraining order, and that's not only expensive, but a pain. Plus, the process of getting it, gives her attention and puts her center stage in his life for a while. NOT what you want to do with her. I wish you both the best of luck.

Answer 3

If they are secretly meeting, then I would call off the engagement. I can see being friends with an ex, but that is taking it too far to have secret meetings. Your trust in him is going out the window. Without the trust, what do you have left???

Sit him down and talk to him about it. As adults, you both should be able to talk about this, even if is it is hard. You have to have honest, open, communication to have a real relationship. If you do not have those things, then your relationship will not last. If he insists on continuing, I would tell him you don't want to continue with the engagement and that maybe you both would be better off as friends. I am sorry. Hugs to you.

Answer 4

If your fiance is doing this on a consistent basis, do you think he should your fiance? Is this something you wish to allow with him? Do you think he has feelings for his ex girlfriend? How much does he really love you or does he? What do they do when they go out secretly or do you know for sure? Do you think they are being intimate? Do you think he will continue to do this after you and he are married? These are questions I would want answers to if I were you and at this point I would confront him as to what his intentions are or might be with his ex. Then if he says he has no intentions see if he keeps seeing her and if he does call it off with him and move on.

Answer 5

Let's see here. The guy you're ENGAGED to be MARRIED TO is secretly going out with his ex girlfriend, and you have to ask public opinion what to do? Well here's what to do. First, quit running every tough decision up a flag pole for strangers to vote on. Second, the next time you see him, throw the engagement ring AT him and tell him to give it to his EX and to never speak to you again. If he persists, call the police and get a restraining order. Girl, have you no pride?

Answer 6

Well, if it was you doing this with your ex, what would your fiance say? I bet he would tell you to walk off the closest cliff!!! Ask him??? He's lying if he says anything other than that! Who likes to share their spouse? No-one!! Why be with one person than? A "secret" is not for anyone else to know, but JUST the two people who know. When two people are going to get married, which is forever, do they have "secrets"? Especially concerning the opposite sex? I hope I have showed you in a nice way, that you are fooling only yourself, and it's time to wake up!! Before your forced!

Answer 7

First you have to realize that a relationship is a two way road.....its takes two to make it work.

You can't control him and I doubt that you even want to try.
Trust should be #1 with the both of you....if he has nothing to hide why is he secretly going out with her? I would try talking to him and if your truly believes him....and you trust him no worries....

However I myself would doubt the secretly part....and would have to think twice before continuing a relationship with him....this may be your sign before marriage........

best wishes

Answer 8

Well,
Ask yourself this question. If they talk, and secretly go out, why am I still with this loser? I am a man. And let me be the first to tell you, If I am sneaking out on my girlfriend, which I have done, I don't deeply care about her as much as I fool myself into believing. So, do yourself a favor, and drop this ******.

Answer 9

Well for one he is going behind your back to meet her. If that were me it would bother me. I think if he cant leave her alone maybe you should leave him alone. Its not right in a relationship you are suposed to be able to trust your partner and that is just asking for trouble. Hes holding onto something and he shouldnt because hes with you now!

Answer 10

DUMP HIS BUTT! listen babe nothing is worth the agony of wondering if the one you love is sleeping with his/her ex. If you dont trust him then their is no relationship. Dont spend money on a wedding that will end in tears of sorrow. You probably desirve a man who will treat you live a princess and who wouldnt pay his ex's no mind.