How do you say goodbye?

Question

my brother died this week and I am half a world away among strangers and feeling really crappy.

Answer 1

I am very sorry for your loss. It must be so difficult to be away from family at a time like this. I know that for Me, being born and raised in the military, I seldom made it "home" for funerals. So I have always tryed to honor the person I lost. Each in a different way. It could be as simple as listening to music that that person liked, and remembering the good times. For instance, when my grandmother passed, she loved Red Lobster, I never cared for the restaurant. But in honor of her, I gathered a few friends, and we went to the nearest red lobster and celebrated her life. I told stories of how she affected my life, and what she meant to Me. I am quite sure that your brother would want for you to mourn him in a healthy way - celebrate his life. Again, I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

My deepest sympathy for your loss. This must be really hard for you. I hope that you can find the closure you need. I have lost 2 brothers and a sister that I never got to say goodbye to. It is not easy. There are so many days when I want to tell my brother something, and I can't. and there are days when I wish I could have told them all that I love them, and its too late. There is no one way to resolve your sense of loss and feelings of sadness especially your inability to contact your brother. One thing that seemed to help me was to write a letter to my siblings and tell them everything that I always wanted to say. It seemed to release my pent up emotions and allow me to grieve. You can throw the letter into the ocean, or burn it, or toss it off a mountain top, or bury it, but you should send it off somewhere. Keep a copy for yourself to read years later. As far as being alone, I am also sorry that you are not near your family. Calling them or emailing them might be helpful. Maybe there is a crisis line in your area where you can call someone even if they are a stranger and just tell them what you are going through. Either way, I wish you peace, and please know that eventually this pain will pass, but may never go away entirely. God Bless.

Answer 3

That's terribly sad....I wouldn't say goodbye, I'd say see you later.
Talk to him everyday like he's still here, think of things he'd have done and don't ever let him go. You can keep him alive in your heart and mind if you don't mind facing the emotions.....but remember, he'd want you to have a good life and be happy. Take him with you and live well in his honor!!!
He was lucky to have a sister who loved him so much:)
I'm very sorry. Try and move forward a step at a time and one of these days you will see the sunshine again, feel the warmth of the sun and smile. Life is and can be good, but it comes with a huge price, that of which you now know. Live and Love, for love is the only thing worth living for anyway so get up, get going and if you are lucky maybe one of these days you may have a little boy and you will have the opportunity to name him after your brother if you so choose. It's hard, but you'll make it. He'd want you to.

Answer 4

I've been through the same event about 2 weeks ago.
Here are some things I found helpful:
- If you have pictures of him, put those where you can see them.
- Ask your family to record any memorial service that is held and send you a copy of the recording. We now have CD's and DVD's as well as audio tapes of the memorial service.
- Write a note (e-mail or card) providing details of events that you shared with your brother. Especially the humorous ones.
- John 14 and Revelation 4 are what I read at her service.

Goodbye is not a once and forever thing. It comes in waves. A year from now you will see or read something that reminds you of him.

Answer 5

Just remember all the good times you shared together and cherish them. And remember we will all cross over to the other room some day. And then you will get to see him again. Also he is in no pain, and happy. You feel sad because it is your lose. Ask God to comfort you in this time of need, and do positive things that your brother would be proud of. I'm sorry for your loss. You are not alone, find someone even a stranger.. everyone will lose a loved one... and cry..

Answer 6

I can't imagine how my life could be if I ever hear that, I guess I am not ready and I could go crazy I love my brother so much , but you are strong and this happen was in times God Im very sorry to hear that really I feel for you.

Find a place where you can grief, a group church, a study bible, coffee place , a bookstore, your room , grief its ok ,
Give your self apart some time for your griefing make this time pressious and important , make it happen, you can writte things, you can read a book , you can cry ...

but put your clock next to it :) griefing to long can make you feel not good and get in to deep depressions that are diagnostic as a illness . I'm sure your brother wanted to be happy, so be it.

hughes

Answer 7

You could try praying if you're the least bit religious, but I'm afraid thats the only way I can think of. I hope your brother is having a great time in heaven. I lost my grandmother in August and we were really close she would come over every other weekend and we would have such a great time and now I feel like my heart is missing something. But anyway sorry about the loss.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry for your loss. Keep him in your heart. Talk about him to others, share stories, talk to him like he's right beside you if you need to. I've never lost a sibling so I can't say that I know what you're going through but just keep your friends and family close right now. I agree with the others, you don't have to say goodbye. I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 9

it's the thought that counts.
someone dear to me died a few weeks before I had to fly abroad. the trip couldn't be cancelled and I flew out with huge desire that the plane would crash so I would die instantly. but then I knew this person would like to see me rise through the challenge and so I will have to keep going. That is how I say goodbye.

Answer 10

My dog died last week as well. I know that's nothing like losing a brother, but I was listening to a song which reminds me of my dog and that kinda helped; if you immerse yourself in something.

The most important thing is to accept it in your own mind.
Being with strangers might actually help. They'll be able to talk to you better because they didn't know your brother.
Keep your chin up.