I see my boyfriend every day in high school. We have a class together. I know how I am going to break up with him. I just don't know where and when. I think he really likes me and i don't want to hurt his feelings. He just gave me his class ring and everything and we have been dating for a few months. I am friends with his family and his sister is my best friend, so I don't want to do anything that would make him and his family hate me. Where should I do it?
2007-01-18 07:19:42 · 22 answers · asked by Cloey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find somewhere that he doesn't have to face his classmates or anything right after, preferably somewhere that he can go to his family and get their support.
If you think so highly of him, why are you breaking up?
2007-01-18 07:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to hear that you are considering his and his family's feelings. The first question is, why do you want to break up with him? If it may be a reason that will hurt him you have to ask yourself if you should be honest or perhaps state something different to avoid making it uncomfortable for you and him. I would highly NOT suggest breaking up during school or at school. Select a place, like a park or a cafe, where it will only be you and him and no other distractions to talk to him. This will avoid any extra stress or drama at school. When I was in high school my boyfriend at the time broke it off with me by taking me to a park and talking about his issues. It was hurtful, yes, but I respected that he didn't just hand me a note in class or told me at lunch period. It made it easier for me to go home, relax and prepare for the next, new day as a single gal. If your best friend is his sister you may want to talk to her before hand and explain your feelings. However, the person that deserves your full attention is the boy that you will be breaking off the romantic relationship with. Please know that his family and your friend will not be happy and may be a little cold at first - but it is to help the boy get over the situation.
Good luck!
2007-01-18 15:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Gemma H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well cloey,
The family and friends won't hate you, unless you give them reason to. Even then, doesn't matter what they think. The main thing you need to do is break this off before it goes any further. So now the point emerges. Where? You shouldn't make a big deal out of it, Even though it is a big deal. You should take him somewhere quiet, private, and well lit (for safety reasons), and tell him all the reasons, in a nice and calm manner, why it is over. The family and friends factor, like I said before, they will just get over it. But they will not hate you.
2007-01-18 15:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry sister but taken the ring and bein in with the family has sunk ur ship. u r going down with it, next time think about what ur doing b4 u string someone along while collecting ur thoughts
2007-01-18 15:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by KC T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your in high school, these things happen. how many high school sweet hearts do you see getting married? he will be hurt but don't drag it on if you know your going to dump him. do the right thing or run it by his sister first and see what she says.
2007-01-18 15:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want any of his other friends or family there with him, because it is a private thing, and you wouldn't want them to start ganging up on you, but you also don't want to be completely alone with him because he may not take it too well, and you may be in danger.
I'm sure you can make the final determination on this based on how well you know him, and if he is secceptable to anger.
Don't put yourself in danger.
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2007-01-18 15:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well your going to hurt his feelings and you and his sister might now be as close as before.
Dont do it over the phone or e-mail
Tell him you need to talk to him and meet up somewhere
then let him know its not working out or thats your not ready for such a serious relationship
2007-01-18 15:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by clockwork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably right after school one day- or the next time you go out on a date, just tell him that it's not quite working out, but you wanna be friends- (which never works)
2007-01-18 15:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by shannon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
C'mon give the guy a break, he gave you his ring and all, he probably really likes you, just one more chance for the poor chap.......what do you say?
2007-01-18 15:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it in private. Don't humiliate him. Go over to his house after school and tell him but dont' tell him at school. He needs to be somewhere where he can be alone if need be.
2007-01-18 15:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Treyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋