My g/f and I agreed to open our relationship up. We have been dating for 5 years. She is not particularly sexual, I myself, am. We both are deeply devoted to making sure each other lives a good life and is safe... we also care a lot about each other emotionally. Our decision is based on the physical needs I have and for her, since I work a lot, it offers her the ability to make new friendships as well. If we break up because one of us falls for someone else, we have agreed to remain friends... all in all it seems like the ideal situation. Now, how do I proceed? She already is making new friends. What do I tell people I meet, what are peoples opinions of this relationship, and has anyone had a successful relationship like this... just wondering!
2007-01-18 07:08:11 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would guess that in the long run thier will be problems. You can talk about sharing each other all you want but when it comes to doing it its much more difficult. What if you find she is more sexuallya ctive with people other than you? What if she thinks your new freinds are more attractive than her? Jealousy will most likely come into play.
if you do go through with it be honest with the people you approach. Just say that you are looking for a casual relationship as you are emotionally unavailable. There are some girls out there who that is what they are looking for (something casual)
2007-01-18 07:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can pretty much tell you that as a female if you came to me and said you have a girlfriend, but are in an open relationship I would pretty much tell you to get lost.
Here's the deal.. you sayd if you fall for someone else, which basically means you are using each other for comfort and out of habit until something better comes along..but to an outsider it's going to seem like they are just getting used for the sex..which most woman aren't going to be down with..so I really dont' see this working out too well for anyone involved.
2007-01-18 07:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say "Hi, I'm pimping out my gal- wanna swing?"
My opinion is you're both scummy and I'd never be friends or go anywhere near people like you.
Break up and move on! Don't use other people to relieve yourself- what kind of crap is that? You're in a relationship but since your crotch twitches more than hers, you need to USE other women to get off??? Break up and get therapy.
2007-01-18 07:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you both say having a open relationship with sexual activities with other people will ruin your relationship and it will fail to thrive.
2007-01-18 07:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude just break up now, she is going to find someone who meets her no sexual desires
in open relationship is the first step to just saying i want to screw other people, a relationship is monogamous
2007-01-18 07:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by wolfchat_2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's gross.. Why would you want to put each other through all that?
2007-01-18 07:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be single. what's teh point? are you that insecure that you NEED her on the backburner?
2007-01-18 07:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋