OK, there is this guy who works at my gym who i really like and we have been friends for a long time but over the past year my feelings for him have grown.
Just before Xmas i decided to ask him out which did not go to plan because he said he was not ready for a relationship (he had just split from his girlfriend at the time) and that there was too big an age gap between us (he is 15 years older than me).
I was gutted, but he is such a nice guy so we have still remained really good friends. However, the past few times i have seen him he has been really flirty with me and been acting as if he likes me more than a friend.
Am i imagining this because i like him so much or do you think he is changing his mind??
Some friendly advice needed, PLEASE!!
2007-01-18 07:08:07 · 13 answers · asked by anastacia500 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One, since you asked him out, it made him feel more attractive. It is nice to find out someone is interested in you.
Two, he knows you had/ have feelings for him, but he did not feel the same way. I would say he is being a little "extra nice" in hopes your feeling are not hurt. Like you said, you are friends. Sometimes, when this happens, and one person does not feel the same way, the friendship is lost. Maybe he just wants to ensure that doesn't happen.
Thre, I assume you are over 18. He may have been caught off guard, given the age difference, and possibly made a mistake. He may have changed his mind after some thought, but doesn't know how to approach it since he somewhat "rejected", for lack of a better word, you.
Now, which one is the answer, I do not know, but they are all possible.
2007-01-18 07:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...you ask, and he says no.
Now, later...he's all over you?
I think he MAY be hinting at giving you a chance. There are some cases like this where he wants to be 'friends with benefits'
If he's doing some flirting every few minutes, and can't keep his eyes off of you...that a much better sign of wanting a real relationship.
2007-01-18 07:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Elle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what he's doing because I caught myself doing the same thing after I found out a girl liked me but I wasn't ready for a relationship.... He's massaging his ego and by flirting with you he's playing a cruel game of "hard to get" since he clearly stated he didn't want a relationship. He's happy because he loves your attention, and he's even making you happy (sort of) because he knows his attention will be well-received....
Admit it, it's flattering to know someone likes you....
So what I'd do is behave like JUST friends with him, and force him (without saying a word) to either ask you out and begin a proper relationship, or stay "just friends".....
2007-01-18 07:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by VoiceOfReason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say hes just bein friendly and wants to see if he still as it! Guys like to know they can have a girl, makes them feel good bout themselves. He knows you liked him at one stage so if hes interested hell ask you. Id forget it though, it doesnt sound very promising
2007-01-18 07:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by mersie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to go for a coffee with you, if he's a friend it shouldn't be a problem... meet him a few more times and arranging to meet in places when you or he is able to make a 'move' on the other... if its meant to happen and you set the scenario it will... good luck..
2007-01-18 10:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by muppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too old for you. Try and meet men your own age. He know you like him that why he flirt. Sorry to dampen you hopes but I feel you will get hurt
2007-01-18 07:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Miss RoZy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe as the time passed he got over his ex and is starting to like you...I dont know but it seems like it...
2007-01-18 07:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by yeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he,s flatered that someone younger than him likes him, its a male ego thing but give it time be brave he,ll ask soon
2007-01-18 07:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ask him if he wants to go for some coffee or a drink and if he says yes, then take it really slow
2007-01-18 07:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is flirting because he knows you like him like that.
makes him feel god and wants the reaction frm you
and is trying to keep you interested because then he feels better!
2007-01-18 07:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by rachealuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋