I met a woman a while back on a christian dating site, and it seemed like we were getting along great. We spoke on the net for about 3 days, about a couple hours at a time, and then I got her number. We have called each other off and on for the past two weeks, and so I tried to make the attempt to ask her out to meet, not to creepy or anything, but at a public place. She said that sounds good and previous to saying yes, I asked her if I made her uncomfortable in any way, she said no, and then I also added, if I do something you don't like, please be honest and tell me. She has a pretty busy schedule between work and school, with Wednesday's and Saturday's off. So last Saturday, I give her a call, leave a message, and haven't heard back from her since. I have been told to call, and have also been told not to call. So what do you think I should do? Should I call or not? If I give in and call, does it make me look sad or desparate? Please help me out.
2007-01-18 06:57:03 · 12 answers · asked by Light Bringer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did ask this question yesterday, but I wanted more opinions.
2007-01-18 07:07:46 · update #1
I would sit back relax and pretend to forget her. Maybe she wants to play hard to get, maybe someone else came and struck her fancy. I personally don't like to be hounded and would rather be the hunter not the hunted if you get my drift.
2007-01-18 07:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give her 1 more call. After that, stop calling or contacting her. You never know with people online- some can be married or involved or perhaps she met a better candidate and put you on the back burner.
So far, all you did was talk on the phone to a stranger. No big deal.
2007-01-18 15:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call. Maybe she did not get the message. Could have happened. I would just call and say, hey I just wanted to call and say hi, how are you doing? If she gives you the feeling she is no longer interested, well hey you tried. But if you dont give it another shot, you might lose out. What if she really did not get your message and is wondering why you did not call. She might be to shy herself to call.
2007-01-18 15:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well In my opinion she was probably just flirting and does not intend to ever meet with you. But I could be wrong thats what I would assume if you didn't hear from her again. I say what the heck call her one last time that will let you know.
2007-01-18 15:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by fabulous1lovely1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you asked the same question yesterday.. didnt you? anyhow Im going to tell you again. Looks like she is not interested because she hasnt called. Dont call her wait and if she doesnt call then forget about it, she is not the only girl.
2007-01-18 15:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude just find a chick at the church you go to or something. She is obviously leading you on if she hasn't been in contact with you since you made your move. I would just leave her alone and move on. Besides it's not very christian behavior to blow someone off you have made a promise too like that to begin with.
2007-01-18 15:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by bbopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her if you like her, she may out of town.
You may want to sent her a E-mail or SMS.
After doing so you may try to call her again this Saturday.
"No Ans again" you may want to try to sms or e-mail her again every 2 day(please one per day), do it for 2 week. 2 week is the limit for you do not try more then that. After that just "WAIT" for her to call you.
2007-01-18 15:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Xiaosinsin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think calling again would make you look desperate, but very interested! go ahead, make the second call, she might be feeling a bit insecure and needing reassurance that you are interested.
2007-01-18 15:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by hizolady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her 1 more call, there could be many reasons why she didnt return your call. That doesnt neccisarily mean she dont like you or is avoiding you.
2007-01-18 15:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your pathetic. Maybe your a creep. Maybe your to clingy. Maybe she figured it out. Maybe she wants nothing to do with you. Maybe you should find a female like yourself!
2007-01-18 15:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by sandnickel2003 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋