I am a mother of two, and I have this problem. Every time my kids get sick, I get over paranoyed. I drive the doctor crazy, along with my family. I cant help myself, honestly I am not going for a mother of the year award, I really wish I was not like this. I cry, and loose my ability to do anything, I get awful thougths, and they work into my brain making even worse. Last month my daughter, who is six by the way, got really sick and the doctor told me constantly not to worry that it was just a flu, but I still ended up crying and staying up all night checking on her every half hour. My mother in law gave me valerian roots to help me relax, and it did nothing what so ever. What is wrong with me? Am I setting myself up for the worst? I love my kids, and I dont want them to see me this way. Please, I need an outside opinion.
2007-01-18 06:57:02 · 6 answers · asked by beygrl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Like you, I found myself overally worrying about my children. Funny thing I wrote a blog about this. On December 31 I was talking about how my goal was to try and trust God more. Funny not even 2 days later my children and myself were really sick. I felt worse for them. I couldn't find peace. I was constantly worrying that it would get worse. I had them to the doctors cause my son had boils on the back of his throat. They told me it was irritation from vomitting. But my mind wouldn't let me rest on that. I felt as if he was wrong and I knew better. I think it is natural for a mother that loves their children to be concerned and I think it comes down to the fact. That our Children make us feel like we are the most important people in their lives. This in return makes us want to keep up with that. Always trying to be their supper Hero. I have found, even though I worry. I also pray with my children when they are sick, or if others are. This gives me peace in knowing their little hearts are also pleading to God to help them. This also lets them know I am putting my trust in a higher power than myself and that it is OK for me to worry, yet let them know God can take care of them. My daughter has learned to Trust in God for this and will pray for people on her own now. My Son is also learning. They are only 7 and 9 and I found that it gives me great peace and also overwhelming Joy that my children pray over and for others!
2007-01-18 07:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely know what you mean. When my kids are sick I feel like I've been hit by a truck. I can hardly smile and my mind is on them all the time. I've cried too, on the way out of a doctor's office with a prescription in hand.
However, you need to be strong for your kids so that you don't frighten them. You also need to rest so you are better able to take care of them - an exhausted Mom is a poor nurse. Valerian root is more of a muscle relaxant, you might consider Chamomile tea or a glass of warm milk or a hot toddy before bed. I won't suggest a sleeping pill because they can make it hard to wake up if your kids do need you.
Also try meditating, like taking deep breaths as you envision your children well again. Your feelings are natural, but you need to control them for your childrens' sake. They need you to be calm and strong and reassuring.
2007-01-18 07:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have what a lot of mothers don't. Love and conern for your children. Try and remember that their kids, they will get sick, they will get hurt. You can't protect them from EVERYTHING, focus on the important things to help your children. If they were to see you get upset and start crying every time they had a sniffle or cough, it's probably not going to make them into strong adults. Nature has made mothers instinctively protective, we will do anything to keep them from harm, just remember, living is about survival in a not so safe world. Save the tears for when you REALLY have to start dealing with life.
2007-01-18 07:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have a panic disorder. Have you been check out for this? Certain thing will trigger a panic attack, most are things that you are not able to control (IE Sick KIDS) and if you are a really organized, controlled person, you are more likely to have this disorder. I suggest you seek some help form a therapist or psychologist for a possible Diagnosis of your probable panic disorder.
Tracylyn S.
2007-01-18 07:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone overreacts!sounds like u need to speak to a doc or therapist tho, this can affect ur kids try researching things like munchausen by proxy.....its similar to ur situation
2007-01-18 07:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by lisa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a massage that will help u relax or go to a spa when u kids are sick
2007-01-18 07:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by V 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋