I know that this is a stupid question but i have no 1 to ask. Me & my Fiance have been together for over a yr?

Question

And we have sex all the time & it is great! But i am having trouble having an orgasim. We have tried every position that there is possible & it feels great but not good enough for an orgasim. When he goes down on me I have one but i want to be able to have one when we are having sex. Please help me!

Answer 1

You need to talk to him about what it is YOU want from him while performing sex. I actually find it hot when my wife tells me the way she wants it.
It could be that once he's in you, that he reaches orgasm before you. which means you need to have him extend the foreplay a lot longer before he gets to put it in.
You said you can reach orgasm when he goes down on you. Well is that after he's had his inside you? If that's the case, then I suggest you have him go down on you 1st as part of the foreplay, & after you have reached an orgasm, then it may be easier for you to reach a 2nd, or a 3rd orgasm when he does get inside.
But mainly switch thing around a little, extend the foreplay, & tell him what feels good during the foreplay, & encourage him to give you more until you are ready to reach orgasm yourself.

Hope that helps.

Answer 2

Well, first of all, you were very lucky to have had orgasms that way anyway. Most women can't have them without more stimulation, like when he goes down on you. He or you can slip you hand down there and play with your clitorus while you are having intercourse and that will work. Or hold a small vibrator down there....he may enjoy that also.

Answer 3

Not everyone is able to have an orgasm from sex alone. We aren't all built the same way and we need different things. You get off from oral because he is paying a lot of attention to your clit. You need to try to get more fricition on your clit when your having sex. Put a pillow under butt to raise up ur pelvis, or have him grind more. Also if you get on top it is somewhat easy to "rub" yourself on him and get off....just reg. sex doesn't cut it for everyone.

Answer 4

That sucks tr not too over stress on it maybe that is the cause when your almost there have him get on top that should work,when hes down on you have him stimulate that certai area and when at peak let him get on top and keep the head of the penis at that point.Good luck!girl...l

Answer 5

More foreplay will help... try missionary position and make sure you rub yourself against him constantly... you should read these articles about orgasming for women.. they can probably answer a lot of your questions...

http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/topics/0,,4thf,00.html

Answer 6

See your like me i can only orgasm through clitorial stimulation thats just the way it is. Other woman have what you have call the g spot orgasm through intercourse,and thats the only way we can orgasm its sucks dont it ive tried everything and im 29 so sorry thats just way it is.Just enjoy each other ok good luck

Answer 7

just try to relax maybe you are trying to hard. get everything out of your mind and think about how good the experience feels, and concentrate on every detail of love making your are having good luck

Answer 8

Increase foreplay time - women take longer to orgasm than guys but after they get one they can have many more.

Answer 9

as soon as you have one from him going down on you.. have him get on top of you... you will have a second that will feel twice as good as the first

Answer 10

try not having sex for like a week. or have him rub your clit a lot while he is in you.