My husbands brother is always causing problems.He is 27yrs old and acts 5.He is very abusive to my husbands parents who he lives with.They spoil him rotten.He doesen't even work he just lives off of them and they don't have that much money.My husband and I have to go to their house for holidays and just to visit on a regular basis.My husband has his own business and his dad works for him so his brother is always coming up their causing problems so my husband comes home in a bad mood with me.This is driving me crazy!!I've threatened to never go to their house and my husbands mom cried for a week and came to my house crying i felt so bad i said ok I'll come over.My husband tells them not to let him com to his office and for a while he doesn,t but he starts coming again.My husband came home for lunch and was in a bad mood we got into a fight and he said he was mad because his brother was at his office.So I called the office and told his dad to send his brother home.Husband is mad at me.
2007-01-18 06:48:47 · 8 answers · asked by julie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Any advice for me????Please I'm so tired of dealing with this.
2007-01-18 06:49:53 · update #1
Your husband needs to grow up and take responsibility for his marriage. And he needs to have a man to man with his brother, that is not your problem to have to deal with. It's time he made a choice.
2007-01-18 07:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by ball_courtney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to let you husband deal with it. I mean is your husband a grown man? If he wants his brother to leave his office then he can tell him so. Also, if it gets bad for you husband, he can get a restraining order asking his brother to stay away from his place of business. This will not prevent him from going to the parents house, but his parents are also adults and must choose to kick his A_s out to become any kind of real man. I think the more you do, allows you husband to find way to point at you. It is easier to direct anger at a person who is available (YOU LIVE WITH HIM) then the person they are really mad at (WHO DOES NOT LIVE WITH YOU OR HIM) so, step back and let you husband deal with it. If he wants to vent, GREAT, you had nothing to do with it.
Best I can think of
Tracylyn S.
2007-01-18 15:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you husband put a stop to his brothers behavior you are stuck with your husband being mad at you let your husband do the kicking not you because its his brother and its his responsibility to fix that problem also let your husband now its not fair to you that you have to get his bad moods not his brother that if he has a problem with his brother he should deal with him and not bring that bad mood home and not to take it out on you.
2007-01-18 16:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by hanusya101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let his brother know if he comes about the buisness or house he will give respect to everyone and the father.Let your mother inlaw know that you love her but something has to be done with that boy.He's 27 with no respect,he needs to get a job,sorry but respect is very important in life.
Let your husband know you love him and you don't wont to fight but it is making you sad and you do not wont your husband to be stressed.
2007-01-18 15:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is using you as a scapegoat for the real source of his anger which is his family. That family needs some counselling and your husband needs to distance himself from that problem enough to not let it bleed over into his relationship with you.
2007-01-18 14:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Marie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your husband extra love.
Don't avoid his parents.
If the brother becomes a nuisance to YOU PERSONALLY by being awkward TO YOUR FACE then tell him very firmly he'd better behave himself or you'll deal with him in a way he won't forget.
And if necessary do so. But don't you storm out. Make sure it's him that has to.
2007-01-18 14:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby should talk to your parents & his brother & tell them all that his brother coming to the office is causing problems and he doesnt want him there anymore. Then you should tell hubby he needs to HANDLE this situation cuz it is hurting you. And tell him he needs to leave his work problems ar work! He also needs to tell bro to grow up & be a man & self supportive.
2007-01-18 14:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw i'm sry. tell ur hubbie that even tho he had a bad day he can't be mad at u. tell the ppl at ur office not to let him in if there is security there. don't go over to their house anymore.
2007-01-18 15:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋