is it easier for you to take if they call it constructive?
2007-01-18 06:33:29 · 15 answers · asked by pepsiolic 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Calling a piece of cyanide "candy" doesn't make it any easier to swallow.
Truly constructive criticism isn't just cutting down and leaving you hanging. It's not constructive unless it offers you some sort of help or methods of improvement. Too many people think they are being helpful simply by "telling it like it is." All they are doing is spouting off what they think, and perhaps how they'd do it if the shoe were on their foot. What they don't seem to get is that the shoe ISN'T on their foot, and you don't need to know how they'd do it. You need to know how to improve what YOU are doing. So the only person it ends up being constructive for is them. That's when you have to use the old axiom of letting it go in one ear and out the other! Humor them, and go about your own way. But when the truly constructive criticism comes along, you'll know it.
2007-01-18 06:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by BuddyL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on many factors, not the least of which is who they are. If this a person I respect and who is in a position of authority or management over me, then I am more likely to take the criticism as constructive. However, I do not respond well to unsolicited advice from friends or family, or strangers. Even with good intentions, I think it's rude and I resist it.
2007-01-18 14:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jennie Fabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always look at it as intended to be constructive. I hate the expression, 'that hurt my feelings'. In my view, somebody can only 'hurt your feelings' if you let them. You may not like what they say, but that's life.
2007-01-18 14:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by mullah robertson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take criticism regardless of it's form. even if someone says something to intentionally hurt you, you never really know if it can help too. Take that bad and make something positive out of it....
2007-01-18 14:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Constructive critiscism and sarcasm are sometimes just veilled insults.
2007-01-18 15:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ben B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually try to weigh their words carefully. If what they are saying hold merit I thank them for their observation. If they are just being nasty, I hand it right back at them in spades. The nasty ones seldom do it again.
2007-01-18 14:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends entirely on who is criticizing and how they do it. I am far from perfect and I acknowledge that.
2007-01-18 14:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they call it is irrelevant. I have a friend that constantly says "I'm not tellin gyou what to do but... or "I'm not trying to bug you but..."
And that is exactly what she is trying to do. So I ignore what they think they are doing and just look at what they are doing.
2007-01-18 14:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no. Very, very few are actually constructive.
2007-01-18 14:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.
2007-01-18 14:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋