how do i go about asking my mom if me and my bf can move into the basement?

Question

I am 19 yrs old
My bf is 20.
We want to move out into an apartment.
But my mom wants me to stay at home and help out still.
I am in college.
MY bf lives in his gmas basement for now.

He works for a floor company and my mom hired the company to work on our bathroom floor for this whole week.
He say our basement that is inhabited and said its a shame we dont even use it because its huge.

Everything down there is breaking or needs to be fixed up because its just left there.

My mom was gunna make me a deal where I pay rent and I dont have to have a curfew.
My bf's sister wants to move into his gmas basement so he wants me to ask my mom if he can pay rent to live down there if he helps fix stuff up.

I think its a good idea cause that way everyone is happy.
Im home still.
Im with him.
Stuff gets fixed up.

But part of me thinks my mom might say hell no. She likes him but IDK if shes gunna go for it.

How should I even bring it up?!

Thanks!

oops i mean "he saw our basement that is unhabited"

Answer 1

just sit down with her and ask her in an adult way....the worst that can happen is she says no...but you are old enough to move out if you want...good luck

Answer 2

Hello You!

Just ask! The least she could say is "Hell no!". Then you can do the puppy-faced, "Why not mom?" whole bid as she explains her side of the issue. And then you can explain exactly what you have just shared with all of us...
You will be fine, and your mom will more than likely be understanding of some broken stuff getting fixed at no expense. Or you can always do it the other way and sneak him in the back door at night and out the window in the morning! ( LOL) No but seriously, just take a deep breath and let the words go. If need be accept no as an answer. Peace!

Answer 3

I'm a firm believer in a straight forward approach, after all what's the worse that could happen?
Don't put it off, for it will just make you go overboard and apologetic in the asking. Start with the asking her if she still wants you there, say you and your BF have talked about getting a place together. Give her a second or two to take that statement in. If she doesn't freak out about you living with him, say something like...the basement could be fixed up as an apartment of sorts and we could be here to help you but have our own seperate place, too. At 19, your old enough to make your own life plans.

Answer 4

Just sit your mom down and start by saying I know you really want me not to move out, and i am trying to respect that but i do have a suggestion. What if BF and I were to fix up the basement And of course pay rent? Tell her that you'd only be down stairs and you would still help her if she needed anything, tell her that eventually you are going to move in with him and this is a good way to test out living with this person. If that fails just ask if he can move in, and who cares your just upstairs and it would def. be a step in the right direction.

Answer 5

How long have you been dating and what type of relationship does he have with your mom? Tell her you really want to live with your boyfriend and that you two are considering getting your own place. Then tell her you have another idea that she may or may not like, but you want to share it with her. Then tell her your idea. Suggest she take some time to think about it before she gives you an answer. She may say yes, or she may say hell no. I should warn you that this arrangement may be difficult. Make sure your boyfriends habits, cleanliness, etc are similar to your moms or they may clash and that will put a huge strain on your relationship with both of them. Good luck!

Answer 6

Not a good idea, because what happens if you and he break up? He will STILL be living in the house. Besides it's not that great of an idea to just live with someone in your parents home...that's kind of disrespecting your parent's home. If you and he want to move in together I suggest you get an apartment somewhere and not move him into your home.

Answer 7

Just sit down and talk to her about it. Offer to fix up the basement and pay rent. The worst she could do is say no.

Answer 8

Mom, can my bf and i move in the basement?
If she says yes, then move in
If she says no.....plan B.
you should always have a plan B that way it doesn't seem like the end of the world when you hear no

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Why just the basement. Ask for the whole house.