is it a sin to have sex before getting marryed?

Question

am so confused am still a virgen but my boyfriend said we should he not making me but still the bible said do not have sex. but if i do will i go 2 hell

Answer 1

Based on your spelling I think you are probably too young to consider sex. Get out of high school first, and make sure you can support a child before you risk getting pregnant.

Religious or not, married or not, make sure you can support a child.

Answer 2

The Bible clearly teaches that sex before marriage is wrong. It is falled fornication in the Bible. After marriage if you have sex outside the marriage bed...it is called adultery. Both are sin. Many today have loose standards and they make all kinds of excuses. Sin is sin. If you were to die immediately following your sin, you risk hell. Stay a virgin until you are ready to marry. You will be so glad you did. Many guys will try to talk you out of it. It is a challenge for them to get you to lower your standards. If they truly love you, they will love you even more for waiting for them and the marriage night. Too many want to take the 'car for a spin' before they buy it. ...and they leave in their wake all the used and damaged goods.... and babies and irresponsibility too. Any good man will be responsible and mature enought to discipline his urges and keep his pants zipped. I recommend you do the same.

Answer 3

Yes it is a sin to have premarital sex. This is not my opinion this is what the bible says.

If you do have premarital sex it does not send you to hell. It separates you from the relationship that you have with God. All sin does this. This is why Jesus covers us with His righteousness.

If your boyfriend truly loves you and RESPECTS you and the woman you are he will not continue to pressure you after you declare your position of NO to premarital sex. This is an agreement that both of you should be of like mind about in order for it to work. This is not easy and I am not implying that it is. I can promise you that both of you will be rewarded in ways that you cannot see or even understand the value of on the unmarried side of the picture. By waiting, the trust and respect that you will have for each other is in no way comparable to what you have now or what you will have if you are unable to discipline yourselves to wait. A higher level of trust and respect for each other are only two of the many benefits of waiting.

Romans 13:13,14
Behave properly, as people do in the day. Don't go to wild parties, get drunk, be vulgar or indecent. Don't quarrel or be jealous. Let the Lord Jesus Christ be as near to you as the clothes you wear. Then you won't try to satisfy your selfish desires.

Congratulations on the fact that you are still a virgin. Here are some thoughts that can help you to stand on your choice to honor God and do it His way.

Hebrews 4:15
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in EVERY respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.

All sin promises to serve and to please but only desires to enslave and dominate.

Being tempted is not a sin until we allow ourself to be drawn into our own lusts. It is in our mind that we first lose the battle with temptation. Our action are always followed by our thoughts.

Dying daily is the rule. The death of sin is in the decision. When you have a conflict between your flesh and your spirit and you decide to be led by your spirit, you die in the flesh. As a Christian there cannot be death without resurrection. Since resurrection follows death this means that power and life flow from obedience to God's word.

God bless you and strengthen you in your efforts to be faithful and obedient to God and His written word.

Answer 4

The Almighty gave humans a great gift. Sex love and marriage. If you separate it, you destroy it. Many people believe that Sex is the act of marriage. That is, that the Almighty has a "cohabitation law". That is, that if you are not married, and have sex.-- you are married. Marriage is an "adhesion contract". It is a contract between a man, a woman and the State. Thus the Almighty is left out of it. I know, it is hard. If you choose to do wrong, knowing it is wrong, you put yourself in a very unenviable position. Please read THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman. It probably will help you communicate, and understand.

Answer 5

Sex is reserved for marriage. Yes, it's a sin. What is a sin? "Sin" is derived from the archery term "to miss the mark."

If you have sex before marriage, you are "missing the mark", the mark of what God's plans are for you.

God didn't put the restriction of refraining from sex until marriage because He wanted you to feel deprived. He wants you to not get hurt. He's put this restraint on you because He wants to protect your heart.

You won't go to hell if you have premarital sex, but you are setting yourself up for hurt. When you have sex with someone, you leave a part of yourself with him, and that special part of you should go to the man you marry.

You won't regret waiting. If your boyfriend is pressuring you, then he is not the man God has set aside for you. Be patient, and wait for God's best. He'll bring him to you.

Answer 6

Don't have sex before marriage not only because it is a sin but because it should be special when you get married. Your virginity is a gift to your husband. You should go into a marriage pure. it makes your marriage better because there are no past issues.

Answer 7

The Bible says not to have sex before marriage because it is in your best interest. God is not an overbearing person. He tells you how to have the best possible life and how to stay in a spirit of light. Heaven is about being with God. If you are friends with Him in life you'll be friends with after.

But the point is that boys will use you for sex. God knows this and because He loves you He wants you to wait until some boy is willing to commit the rest of his life to making you happy before you have sex with him.

You have something very special in your virginity. Many people will be jealous and want you to lose what they have lost. Don't let this boy take something that he has not work for. Something that is worth a lifetime of devotion.

Save your virginity for the one who will love you for the rest of your life. You are worth it.

Answer 8

Having sex before marriage, or outside of marriage, is called fornication and God frowns on it. It is a sin and dishonors God. Don't let your boyfriend pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. I can't stand that whole "you would if you loved me" jazz. They just want what they want and then you won't see his tail for dust the minute he gets it.
Remember that unless it is taken from you by force (like rape), your virginity is one of the few things that YOU decide when, how and who to give it to. You CAN say no!
Respect yourself and make sure he does too; otherwise, find yourself another man.

Answer 9

Dear Michelle,

Any sexual relations before marriage is a sin. But please note what Jesus said in Matthew 5:28, "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." The fact of the matter is that we have ALL sinned against God and deserving of hell. But the Lord in His great mercy and graciousness determined to save some of these rebels and make them His children. The Lord is just, so He cannot allow sinners to come into heaven without paying the penalty for their sins. The penalty for one sin is to spend eternity in hell but we have committed thousands, perhaps millions of sins! So the Lord became flesh (Jesus) and was born into this world. See one man (Adam) lost eternal life for mankind, so the Lord (Jesus) came to redeem (buy back) those whom He determined to be His children. When Jesus was suffering on the cross it was not the physical suffering that was payment for sins--it was what we could not see, Jesus enduring the equivalent of spending eternity in hell to pay for the sins of those whom He chose to save. The cross simply was symbolic that Christ had become accursed by carrying the sins of those He came to save. He was their sin substitute.
The thing that you need (as well as everyone else) is salvation through Jesus Christ. Start reading the Bible slowly and prayerfully. You may not understand alot of it but keep reading and asking the Lord to have mercy on you. Check the references that I've listed. You may need to use Google.

Answer 10

The Bible says that sex outside of marriage is fornication. Keep yourself pure for your husband once you're married. That's what I'm doing.