What do you think about this?
2007-01-18 06:12:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What IS it with people and needing to feel "in love" to have a successful marriage? Love is an action, not a feeling. You act in loving ways, and it generates (over time) the loving feelings.
I can't think of anything better than to be able to share your life with your best friend. You have constant companionship, someone to look at things past and future with who totally gets you. A best-friend relationship is relatively stress-free because you both accept each other. You have something truly precious, and you should work on enhancing the romance if you really miss it, but never mistake that what you have, a marriage with your best friend, is the foundation of a rock-solid marriage.
If you're thinking about an affair or leaving, don't. Divorce and infidelity are horrible wounds that tear apart everyone involved. Divorce, even in "amicable" cases, is painful and especially for women involves years of grieving. Many women make very bad relationship decisions in the years following a divorce as they seek that wholeness and healing they craved before the divorce.
There is no loss or shame or guilt in having a solid relationship. Life is not a soap opera, where your feelings of passion must carry you from one scene to another.
2007-01-18 06:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tomteboda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, it's not a good situation. Hope you don't
have children. Think back to why you loved him before and try
to make it work again , give it a good try for at least 3 months.
If there is still no love, try a marriage counselor, professional advice before separation or divorce.
2007-01-18 14:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by Faithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over time that initial love for our significant others changes from passion to companionship. As long as you don't feel that you trapped in the marriage you really don't have to worry too much. Just try to rekindle some of that passion you had earlier and it may change your mind. Variety keeps all relationships healthy.
2007-01-18 14:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why'd u marry him in the first place??? u dont marry ur frendz, u marry the person u truely love as ur soulmate the one u wanna spend the rest of ur life with and take care of. i dont think u should tell him that cuz thats just gonna tear him apart. try spicing things up with him, go out more often, i dont know, do things u dont usually do with him.
2007-01-18 14:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 15 years and we were more like best friends also, finally divorced and we are still friends and much happier separated
2007-01-18 14:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it always been this way? If not maybe it can be rekindled. Marriages go through dry spells. Best bet is to discuss it with him (which I know is better said than done).
Good luck.
2007-01-18 14:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Thinking 'bout it 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its too nice of you to marry him ^-^... but you should have known that it will hurt him more coz you're already married... the only thing you can do is tell him the truth... he may get mad at you but atleast you've let him know... you cant be tied to sumone you dont really love... he should appreciate that you told him before he hear it from sumbody else... he will give your freedom if he really cares and loves you ^.~
2007-01-18 14:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm having the same problem.. I am just so comfortable with him.
I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-18 14:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you just need to learn to spice things back up between you.
2007-01-18 14:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to move on.
2007-01-18 14:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋