I've been dating this guy casually for the past year. I want to take things to the next level, he doesn't. Here's the catch...he's an extremely focused college basketball coach and has very little time to spare. During the regular season, he has games and practices, and during the off season, he travels to recruit. As if that's not tough enough, he lives in another state right now. I care for him a lot and would be willing to try something more serious. He says that he cannot offer that right now due to his career and that I should keep my options open. He says that if things happen down the road, then so be it but for now he cannot give back to me what he would like. I respect his decision, but question it. I believe that if the "right" girl came along nothing else would matter. Do you think what he says is legit and I should wait to see if things change or do you think I am just not the "right" girl?
2007-01-18 05:58:11 · 9 answers · asked by Lisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Coaching is a funny business, especially at that level. These guys can eat, drink, sleep, and breathe their sport during the season. In the off season, it's a little more relaxed, but they still have their whole heart and soul into this.
I can't say that this is an excuse, or if it's his real reason. But you should know that if you get more involved with him, you will share him with basketball for as long as he's coaching.
Let me rephrase that - basketball will share him with you, but maybe a little grudgingly.
2007-01-18 06:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people make time for the important things. maybe you're the right girl, but just not right now. you've fallen victim to bad timing. maybe when he gets older and realizes he wants a family, or when he grows out of the crazy work phase, he'll re-evaluate what he wants. but i wouldn't waste my time. In my opinion, if you're dating to find a husband (and not just for the casual enjoyment) you shouldn't steer away from the goal. if you want to get married and start a family, you and this guy have different wants! (but don't just get married for the sake of marrying lol)
2007-01-18 06:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do you really know this guy, that's the question you have to ask yourself.
There are a few signals going off here....such as, is he married, has he got another relationship going....just food for thought.
2007-01-18 06:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by conga_54 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion he doesn't want a relationship with you, but he is scared or doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying how he feels and thinks.
2007-01-18 06:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by lyn4tik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue.He told you straight up to keep your options open.
2007-01-18 06:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is makin up excuses.. if a guy likes a girl and wants a raltionship, he will definatly make time for her.
2007-01-18 06:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an excuse--if he really cared he would make it work, he sounds like he might still be playing the field.
2007-01-18 06:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Doug H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup it is
OR
he dont like u
2007-01-18 06:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's an excuse.
2007-01-18 06:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by eViL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋