I am dating a pastor. I wasn't aware of this until our first date at which time he decided to disclose this information to me. The problem I'm having is that this man has been treating me like a yo-yo. He pulls me close and then shoves me away. Our first night out he tells me he wants to take me to his bed and love on me. Then he starts making excuses that having sex before marriage is ok and that pastors are human. I believe he should be setting a good example and not leading a double life. He meet me on an online personal website. He blocked his profile because he is well respected in his community. In other words, he doesn't want people to know about his double life. I find out last night he's been out with a lot of women the last several months. What should I do? He won't communicate with me. I haven't talked to him in over 2 days. He tells me that he loves me, but I feel like I'm being played for a fool. What is my responsibility as a person and christain?
2007-01-18 05:54:27 · 9 answers · asked by dawninky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, just do what your heart tells you, ts hs decisio what he wants to do and if anything bad happens he'll get all the blame. If you don't think you like the situation your in, just leave
PS- I heard them pastors like to do it missionary style
2007-01-18 06:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by arabontheloose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is pray for him and then let him go.. I know that it's hard to do but that's all you really can do.. he wont change until he is ready to change... it's sad that he is a pastor and showing this type of example... But in the end he will be the one getting burnt not you...and his members of his church will slowly start to see the real him..... and you seem to nice to have to deal with a man that is like that....
Think about it, If he is willing to lie and hide his secret from his church members and the whole community then can you only imagine what he may try and lie and do in the future to you...
If I was you I would just move on and let god handle him in his own ways...
Good luck hun, I hope you find your Mr. Right.....
2007-01-18 06:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Karma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cant really say, you have to know the person too just because hes a pastor doesnt mean that they're in a specific group of pros and cons everyone is different Just like saying whats the pros and cons of an asian (im asian). you really cant answer that question because again everyone is different. Just depends on the person
2016-05-24 03:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry this jerk calls himself a pastor. He's not one in my book you should go to his church and tell the people there what hes doing as he is not a true chritian.
the 1st answer you got is wrong us pastor do like sex lots of it just like any man but a true pastor will only do iit in marrage.
2007-01-18 06:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by easymoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestlyy if you are feeling this way this early into the realtionship.. cut your ties and move on. There will be a relationship out there that does not cause you to question..
2007-01-18 05:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him and his church. When it gets found out what he is, make sure you're no where around and your name cannot be mentioned.
2007-01-18 06:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your responsibility is nothing!!!! Leave the loser alone and move on with your life.
2007-01-18 06:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont datre a pastor. They are all boring and they wont have sex with you no matter what you do!
2007-01-18 05:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
personally leave him
christian thing is to talk to God he'll direct you on the right path
2007-01-18 05:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋