exboyfriend and I are the same nationality but have different religions.We knew from the beginning wouldnt work out..I loved him a lot..did a lot for him regarding school, money, sex..He always put me down regarding my weight, was abusive.I dunno if its cuz he wanted to end the relationship and chose to hurt me to the point where i would break it off..I cheated on him with his boy once..I had sex but i told him it was just a kiss..I wanted to break it off but couldnt..We ended up going out for 2 more years..We see each other here and there and have sex.Now that we officially broke up, he hangs out with his boy i messed with..He calls me whenever he feels like it...texts me which he has never really done b4...We know we cant marry each other. All our friends know that we are not together so we hang out seceretly...I miss him in the sense of hanging out like we used to...What is going on his mind? I know he has some type of hatred towards me..or mixed feelings..what is he thinking?
2007-01-18 05:36:39 · 18 answers · asked by cyberlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are still having sex with him, that is his motivation. He probably knows the truth about the other guy, too. It sounds like he has no respect for you whatsoever. I don't think he hates you, but he doesn't love you either. You need to get him out of your life. This is not the relationship you want, so get out of it. Tell him you're busy when he calls, don't answer his texts, don't make plans to get together. When you refuse to have a sexual relationship on his terms, you will force him treat you with respect. That doesn't mean he will love you or even call you again, but that is a good thing.
2007-01-18 05:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but I think he is just into you when he wants some action. I know that it is hard but I would quite hanging out with him all together. Do not have sex with him anymore and see what happens. You are a better person, and shouldn't be used for things like that! If you want to still be his friend that may be ok but no more SEX with him. It just makes things more complicated. You already know you can't be together!
Find a better man!
2007-01-18 05:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 10:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking that he can have sex whenever he calls you. How can you be so goofy? You admit he puts you down and is ashamed of you. I think you need to find someone else or stop crying about it. You should have more respect for yourself. There are so many guys out there who are not like that and here you are wasting time with that trash. Good luck.
2007-01-18 05:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the fact you cheated on him. You should not feel bad about things you can't change. You should not be talking to this guy. He doesn't care for you. He cares about getting laid. I know you want to keep in touch with him because you somehow still care for him, BUT 2 things you used to describe him should have you running in the other direction. Putting you down and abuse, they are nothing but trouble. There are so many great people out there that will care for you in ways you can't imagine. This guy is showing you attention now because you aren't with him. I know it sounds odd but sometimes when you want a person and you get them, you don't want them anymore. After that you leave them and when they are gone then you want them again because they aren't there for you to have. Slightly confusing but absolutely true. Sometimes you have to just let go. Please don't go back to him. Anyone who won't be seen with you in public and calls you names and hurts you is not the person you need be with.
2007-01-18 06:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Liv's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are weird like that, one minute they want you the next they want somebody else. From what you stated, I think you should keep your distance before you fall for him again. He doesnt deserve you and he has a serious problem with keeping his hands to himself. In time you will find someone who loves you for you and will never physically, emotionally or mentally hurt you.
2007-01-18 05:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by lilsp53306 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but I dont understand what you are thinking. Why are you still messing around with him. You said he disrespects you. There are plenty of other men out there that wont treat you like a BOOTY CALL. Move on and get him out of your life.
2007-01-18 05:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by bb77blueeyes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, if you're sleeping with him 'just whenever' that's probably exactly what he wants when he calls or texts you.
Sorry to say it, but that's my guess. Try not sleeping with him for a LONG time and see if he still calls or comes around.
2007-01-18 05:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going through something like this , but I have been married for a while, he was not abusive though, I am now getting counceling try this it will help I promise
2007-01-18 05:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by broken 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably wants to just keep you on a string because he knows that you will have sex with him. You are his backup.
2007-01-18 05:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Tink 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋