I'm pregnant with my second child, due in a month actually.
For the past few months, my daughter has had "babies in her tummy." She mimics me by rubbing her tummy, saying that things are good for her baby, etc. She'll even say that she is having two babies, a boy and a girl, and their names.
From talking to other moms, this seems fairly normal, and that isn't what concerns me. What I'm worried about is what is going to happen when she doesn't have her babies. My daughter is a drama queen and I'm worried that this could become a big problem.
Will this just fizzle out on its own after her brother arrives? Is there anything I can do to help the situation?
2007-01-18 05:36:29 · 26 answers · asked by kmagicka 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My friend went through this with one of her girls, and while it is kind of cute, and even flattering, she shared the same concern. She did two things that I thought were good, and she never had any trouble.
First, she encouraged her daughter to think of the baby in Mummy's tummy as her baby too. Second, she bought a baby doll and put it in her labour bag and her new baby sister gave it to her as her "welcome present". The nurses in the ward were tickled pink with the idea, and even gave her a bassinette to put it in, so the doll was in the bassinette beside her sister when her older one first came in. I guess you might need a boy and a girl doll if your daughter is expecting twins :)
Whether the trick worked, or she was just so excited with her new sister that everything else was forgotten, she went from being pregnant to being a big sister in a flash.
Congratulations, by the way!
2007-01-18 05:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Thorne 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off... Congrats on having a second child. I have an Aunt who has the same situation with her 2year old. She is always rubbing her belly telling her ''baby'' everything is going to be okay, and when she sits down, she sits as if she was 9 months pregnant. Im sure its just because you are pregnant and she wants to be just like mommy. I don't think you should be too concerned with her actions, and no doubt when you have your second child, she will start to play with one of her dolls as if her baby was born, and she'll care of it in every way possible. Im sure that when she doesnt have her ''babies'', but when you have yours, she'll have forgotten about being pregnant as there will be so much else going on around her. Just make sure to give her plenty of your attention when the second little one comes along. Good luck with this and if you find you are still have trouble, question your doctor about it, or research it on the web, but I'm sure you have nothing to be worried about. Again, congrats on the second child!
2007-01-18 05:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by ROOR 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am dont have a daughter, but I have taught a sunday school full of little girls. I am pretty sure she is just immitating you. Just like a son immitates his dad shaving, even though there is no actual hair to take off. In my opinion, she is fully aware of the fact that she is NOT pregnat, and is just having fun. Little boys and girls, especially girls, love to "make believe" To finish the whole "pregnancy" thing, she might even pretend to be giving birth to a baby doll that she might have "pulling her out from under her shirt" I dont think you should be alarmed. If you believe that it's more than "just a game" then have her see a councelor. Even if she truly believes that she is pregnat, I dont think the dissapointment of her not giving birth will be much to worry about.
2007-01-18 05:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by pda_tech_guy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter is exibiting a very healthy and normal imagination. When i was pregnant with my son, now 16 months. My nephew , 4 at the time. Saw my belly and freaked out over my stretch marks. He thought it was the baby trying to claw his way out of my belly. He didn't sleep for a week! LOL my sister lets him watch way too much TV. Give her a babydoll and bring it home in a car seat just like your baby if she freaks. Congrats!!
2007-01-18 07:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by rose_calhoun23 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly? I'd make her a aspect of it. "How might you love to have just a little sister or brother?" Most (now I say so much) kids fantasize approximately having a sibling. If feasible (if and while you do get pregnant) take her alongside to a sono appointment. Make certain you are making her a aspect of it. Do tons of play movements along with her that contain "taking care of toddlers" (little one dolls). That means she could have an suggestion of what to assume. Even if she says she might as an alternative now not have a sibling she's going to finally regulate to it. At 4 so much kids suppose the arena revolves round them (now not their fault, its how their brains position at this factor). Lucky for you, the independant "I don't want aid from anybody, I can do it myself, thanks very so much" level is rapid drawing near. Also, finally she's going to must appreciate that the arena does now not revolve round her (fully, besides). Having a sibling will aid with this. And after the little one comes, make certain to allow her "aid." I uncover that four 12 months historic make fine "gophers" lol. (opt for this, opt for that). And they in most cases revel in it.
2016-09-08 01:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, her little mind will probably forget all about her story of having babies in her tummy too. My SON actually said that while I was pregnant with our second and third child. It's totally normal. I don't think you have anything to worry about.
2007-01-18 07:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MY neice did the same thing...only it was with nursing because she had seen a friend of the family nursing the baby. She wouldn't go anywhere till she had sat down lifted her shirt and put her doll to her chest. then she woudl burp the baby, and you couldn't rush her either. She grew out of it..threw my cousin off when her 5 yr old asked her if mommy could help her deliver her baby. Its a phase.
2007-01-18 06:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kids get over things easily ...She is pretending and many kids realize what pretending is all about . My suggestion is if your dad worried when the new baby arrives give her a gift. like buying a new born infant doll ...and while your taking care of your new arrival she can also do the same ...You can give her one premie diaper and have her mimic chaging and feeding him
2007-01-18 05:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She knows she is not pregnant. It is just pretend. She won't freak out when she doesn't have babies. But if your are really concerned buy a newborn babydoll for her and when you give birth give her the doll so she can have her own baby to care for.
2007-01-18 05:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by PRS 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She'll be occupied with the arrival of the new baby...but she might want to be the "mommy" and she might want to feed the baby and change him etc...You should ask her to help you with the baby, this will make her feel responsible and imporatant and she'll not be jealous.
Good Luck and congratulations
2007-01-18 05:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋