Things are great with a new relationship.
I have one concern. She is still minimally in touch with an ex via email. This an ex that really gave her the shaft and broke her heart 6 months prior. Now all the sudden hes lonely and needs her email companionship out of the blue. She has willingly obliged to this need and has began an email conversation with him.
Im concerned she has not completely moved on from her past, although she is extremely happy with me, she still cares for this guy. She keeps an online journal in which he has access to read, and this email conversation started days after she mentioned how happy she was with me.
I see an odd pattern of events. She wants to be a bleeding heart and be someone he can occasionally talk to (email only i hope!)
Im not concerned that she is unhappy with me, iam however concerned about her motives of being with me.... How can i tell if her motives are about me, or if shes hidding from her past (rebound relationship)
2007-01-18 05:24:15 · 4 answers · asked by denny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in a sticky situation.My gut feeling is to say that you are a rebound.No new relationship can ever be started until the old one is completely finished.It does not sound like she is emotionally finished with her ex.And that is not fair to you or herself.You need to sit down and have a serious discussion as to what her feeling's and intentions are with you.You sound like a very caring person and I would hate to see you get used or hurt.Really the only way to know what her motives are is to talk to her.Also trust is everything in a relationship and without trust you have nothing.Respect is also another important part of a relationship.The fact that she is communicating with her ex through e-mail or any form of communications is really very disrespectful towards you unless she had children with her ex in which case they need to communicate but you have'nt mentioned children so i'm thinking that's not the case.If she truely want's to be with you she need's to completely free herself from her ex.You deserve to be treated with respect and honesty.Good luck to you.
2007-01-18 05:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right to be concerned. If she is with you, she has no business emailing him. It would be different if they had parted on good terms and had remained friends. But if he is saying he is lonely and is looking to her for support, I would guess he may be looking to get back with her.
I agree that you don't want to start acting insecure, but I think you should bring it up with her. I would just tell her that her continuing to befriend him is hurtful to you and that you would like her to consider your feelings about it. If she continues to email him, she is basically saying she doesn't really care if she is hurting you.
You may or may not be her rebound man, but that doesn't mean you two will not work out.
2007-01-18 05:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 10:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start acting too insecure, and you'll drive her away for sure. You're just going to have to trust her. And remember words don't mean anything: actions do.
If she's into you, she'll act like it.
2007-01-18 05:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋