what do you guys think?
some people think that more divorces will come out from couples that had moved in first before marriage, but then again how will you know you can live with someone for the rest of your life if you've never spend some time with them before getting married?
2007-01-18 05:19:08 · 41 answers · asked by College GurL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you answered your own question....living with someone else, no matter who they are, can be hard. Some people don't do it due to religious beliefs, etc, but I think it's a good idea.
You never truly know someone 'til you've lived with all their little habits!
BTW....I am moving in with my BF before marriage.
2007-01-18 05:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree, there are things about a person that you probably can't find out from just dating, like how they act with handling day to day bills, sharing household chores, sleeping habits, cleanliness, and how they act in every situation. You see the true person when you can't get away from each other because you live together! You don't think so at first, but once you've been married for a while (or forever) these things really matter. You should have absolutely all the information before you make a decision such as marriage.
2007-01-18 05:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by gmug9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because marriage is a commitment to each other. To stay together "for better or worse". To work it out when things get tough and to fight to keep the marriage strong... Moving in together is a cheaper way to live and makes having sex more convenient. It's only a commitement to share physcial space together. Nothing else. When it becomes difficult, it's easy to walk away...pack your stuff and find a new place to live... Women ususally agree to do this because they figure it's a step closer to marriage. Once they live with the guy awhile and the wedding proposal doesn't show up, they realize what an idiot they've been and they leave. Guys usually do it because it's easier than confessing that they will never want to marry the girl they are with. It's laziness.
2016-03-29 03:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to social psychologists, statistically more people break up if they move in before they are married. There are still questions as to why that is so, though the speculation is that once a couple has moved in together, the act of marriage holds less meaning.
2007-01-21 07:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Colin V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in first. get in "each others way",know the bad habits and see if you can stand them. I lived with my now husband from day 1. At first just at out seperate homes then we got our first place. This was almost 7 years ago. Weve only become a better couple. He's home,dosent go to bars after work,were in a partnership not a "this is your job,this is mine". We argue well,are very considerate and respectful and see eye to eye on major issues. We have our beautiful kids. Though I dont think this has anything to do with us moving in together right away,I think its a good idea to know how you handle each other and dealing with different lifestyles.
2007-01-18 05:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be a set time frame for living together before marriage only because now a days people get to comfortable when they live together and never get married. Taken road trips and mini vacations can open your eyes to how your mate maybe when your with each other for 24 hours or more hours straight. I think once you get engaged you should move in together.
2007-01-18 05:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by lilsp53306 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is nothign to do with moving in or out.
In other hand is not necesary for you to live with some one before you got married.
You dont "have to " live with the person to get to know him or her.
You know the person for other things, what they believe, what they like, what are their dreams and many things more.
Getting married is a different stage of the relation, is when you share your bills ( or split ) you share your bed, you share many thigns that you don't as a bf or gf, If you are not married how can you share all of this?and live with person.
believe is not fun been living with a boy a friend. You canno't tell how he would be when you guys get married cause you don't do same things.
2007-01-18 05:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by JUST ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's a risk you are willing to take if you believe that person is the right one for you...
It's not fair either, why should you get all the benefits of marriage without the committment--then marriage has been cheapened....Living together as a married couple is different then unmarried and it must make it less special
if you are engaged to someone you probably know them well....if not then that is your fault...Everyone has issues that annoy their spouse but when you are committed to someone it makes it alot easier to live with and know that they'll always be with you with your flaws too...not just trying you on for size...
that's just my opinion...by the way if it wasn't healthier why would a relgion say it's so important...and why would so many people question this? Why does a religion ever say anything about anything? I definitely don't think it's to torture people....
2007-01-18 05:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by L 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i def agree with waiting til you are married til you live together. that is what my husband and i did. marriage is a life-long commitment...it may be hard if you have never lived with the person (it wasn't at ALL for us) but it doesn't matter ..you stick with it. i believe people get divorced alot more now..b/c you are taking away something so special. how fun would it be to get married, go on your honeymoon..and then come back to the place where you were already living together and the same old thing. i loved that we started our NEW lives together after the wedding. :)
2007-01-18 05:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've always favored testing living together before getting married. Some people simply aren't meant to live together, little habits that truly annoy one another can easily kill a relationship.
Oh - and interesting statistic - 51% of women are unmarried - making that the largest percentage in American history, and the first time that the majority is unmarried.
So I'm not certain how relevant marriage is anymore...
-dh
2007-01-18 05:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm all for moving in together before marriage! You need to see how well you get along living, eating, and sleeping together before making that commitment of marriage. If you decide that you can't live together, then at least you can just go your seperate ways and not worry about being legally bound together. (Divorce is never easy!) Hope this helps!
2007-01-18 05:22:59 · answer #11 · answered by mary087 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋