My gf left me and I have hopes of us getting back together again. I am still putting myself out there for her. I love her and haven't turned my back on her. She says that she doesn't want anyone in her life at this moment in time and yet she is confused. She admit to not knowing what is going on in her own life. Do I stay around or move on?
2007-01-18 05:17:53 · 33 answers · asked by Skip formalities. Ask for Jack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on
2007-01-18 05:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the correct and most reasonable answer is get the heck out of there lol BUT
It's easier said that done.
I have been in a situation like that before. If you really love the girl, I say stick around and when you're ready to move on, you'll know and you will. Sometimes in love, we have to give it all we got, and that way it's easier to move on, whe you can say, "At least I tried it all" instead, of "what would have happened if I stayed around?" Just keep in mind that this might not be too healthy for you...a little painful.....but hey....if she's worth it....she's worth your time :D Good Luck.
2007-01-18 05:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! My second husband and I were divorced in 1995. I did not want the divorce and still love him more than anyone I could ever love. But, I cannot sit around waiting for him to come back to me. I would take him back in a heart beat if he wished it, but don't sit around waiting. I have had wonderful experiences without him.
Live your life. There are other women who might be much better for you, some that are horrible, but waiting for someone you love to make up their mind, will just drive you crazy.
2007-01-18 05:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest reading a book called, "Love must be tough." by Dr. James Dobson. If you love her, set her free as Sting sings. Act confident and secure if you run into her and whatever you do, don't call her, don't cry or get upset in front of her. Give her the space she seeks and let her make the first move back. I know it can be Super tough but if she loves you she'll come back. If you try to force it or appear needy she may cut and run for good. Good luck!
2007-01-18 05:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that choice. But what you do have to remember is that you have one life. Is it worth sitting around waiting or do you want to get out and start living? Once she thinks you've moved on she'll probably do the typical thing and want you back!
2007-01-18 05:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love her and as long as you love her, you can't let go. Just live your life and do what you feel is best. There doesn't have to be a cut and dry situation.
Do your best to be happy and good to yourself. Maybe in time, she will want to be with you again.
Give her space, because when you do it, it shows you love her.
Actions speak louder than words. Love is a behavior.
2007-01-18 05:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A girl that respected you would not dream of telling you something like that. The only way to get back that respect is dump her for real and immediately score with another. She will know instantly and if there is a chance for you two, she will beg to have you take her back.
2007-01-18 05:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by monalisawasahottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me like we are both n the same predicament I say give her time and space and let her know that you care for her and are going to be there for her if she ever needs you. Its hard to accept the fact that someone you love doesnt want to be with you but if I where you I would stay around. Give her time to sort out what she needs to and hopefully things will work out
2007-01-18 05:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Get out of there for f**k's sake. Everyone i've ever known who's waited in such a situation has come up a cropper. And i mean women as well as men. Also if she gives a sh*t she'll ask you to come back if she sees you with someone else.
2007-01-18 05:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Bacon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to move on cause u never know when she will get her life together or even if she will. and if she does who says she wants u in it (not meaning to be rude) y wait when the right one could be right in front of u
2007-01-18 05:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by debbie o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say keep in touch but dont shut yourself off to other opportunites. You have no idea how long you may wait for her to figure things out and there is no promise that she will take back even then. It would suck to miss out on something great because you were waiting on her
2007-01-18 05:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋