I have a boyfriend. He is 20 and has a baby that is not mine and I love his son too death. But one of my old boyfriends have come back to talk to me and he is in the army and he told me he missed me. And all these memories start to flood back in and now all i think about is him. But the reason I broke up with him was because I was so scared something was going to happen to him when he was in the army.... how would you goes handle the situation???
2007-01-18 05:14:27 · 21 answers · asked by Chelsea P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont have any advice in this situation. I have never been there. But for someone from the outside looking in if you love him or atleast see the potential to love him is it worth a try? Im not sure how I would handle this but i do know that sometimes we just have to let our hearts decide.
Good luck to you
and prayers for him
2007-01-18 05:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advise is to weigh it out.
Who makes you laugh more?
Who shows you how much they love you?
Who do you trust more?
Who's baby would you like to have?
You said you loved your boyfriends son to death, you didn't say you loved him. It's not your baby though, you might have baby-mama-drama from his ex in the future and he has a son with someone else. Who is to say they won't ever get back !?!
Your army guy on the other hand... breaking up with him because you were scared something was going to happen to him is no excuse. Anyone can go outside and get hit by a car or get shot by accident. Being scared is not a way to live your life. Go with your heart !!
P.s. Our Army men need love too !!
Anyone would be proud to have a young army man as a MAN !!
2007-01-18 05:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if you truely loved him you would have stayed with him no matter what, through thick and thin. I can only imaging being with someone who could be called off to war. The only difference is that you loved him before he left not during. If you still have feeling for him then I think you should go back to him and stay with him. As for the current boyfriend dont stay with him becuase you love his son, thats not a good enough reason. I really dont believe you have gotten over the military guy. If you were over him it wouldnt have been so easy to start dwelling on the past.
2007-01-18 05:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by lilsp53306 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I'm not in favor of your ex,, beside you said about your current one that you love his son, you haven't say you love him.. any way I don't think that people go to army cut off their relations ,, on the contrary they holdup to what they have and ask for the support and prays of their loved ones,, babe it was only an excuse to dump you and there is something happened behind the scene which left him alone ,, then he wanted to come back to the old days... I would recommend you stay with your current boy if you love him not only his son and dump the army guy,, good luck
2007-01-18 05:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by herosam2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your old BF. Don't stay with a man that has a baby that is not yours. Because you will always have to deal with his ex lover. She will always be in his life. And dont worry so much about the other guy being in the Army. He deserves love even if he has a dangerous job. Go back to him. If you have no children it is best to be with a man who has no kids too.
2007-01-18 05:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 10:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something could happen to him whether he's in the Army or not. Who do you love? Is it your current boyfriend, his son, or they guy you broke up with out of fear. You can't live in fear of what might happen. Love for today, as much as you can. Do what makes you happy. Don't let fear rule your life.
2007-01-18 05:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Patience G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only broke up with him out of fear and the relationship was strong you'll regret it later. Sadly if your current boyfriends son is really involved with you you dont want to hurt the child by just bailing. Yours or not. Its a tuffy. Do what your heart tells you its your best guide.
2007-01-18 05:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by *Aimzie* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when we make decisions in haste we have to live with it our whole life, It would seem you have made one already, though it is repairable at this point, you may be making one with your new boyfriend... The choice is yours to make. choose wisely!
You already left the guy who's' in the army if you truly loved him you would have stuck by him in his decision and stayed with him.
or are you really that selfish?? if so you only love yourself, and it doesn't matter who you are with because it's all about you anyway. Try thinking about others and not only of yourself... sorry so harsh, I do hope that's not the case.
2007-01-18 05:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by James S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you like more, the guy with the son, or the guy in the army, if you really think about it, the answer will come to you, we can't pick for you.
2007-01-18 05:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mr.President 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋