She's 19 (has a son) and I'm 20. She gave me her # and we went out once. She had to cancel 2 other times. She originally said she wanted to be more than friends and I said I wanted to take it slow cuz i never had a gf and she has a baby.
We used to talk at least once a day and she'd be all into me, but for the past week we've hardly talked (granted her sister has been having some relationship problems her family is dealing with) and she doesn't return my calls (when I leave a message). I'm thinking of calling and saying, "Look, we gotta talk... When we first was talking you said you wanted to be more than friends, do you still feel that way?" If she says no, then I'll be cool about it. If she says yes, I was going to say, "Look, you know I'm new to this whole being in a relationship thing, so am I doing anything wrong? am I moving too slow? I need to know..."
That good
U think I'm crazy? lol
2007-01-18 05:08:10 · 7 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you've got your answer. If she is having family problems and you two aren't officially together, the family stuff takes priority, not to mention her daughter. Just talk to her. Ask direct questions and if she is still interested, ask her what she needs.
2007-01-18 05:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude.... from wat i can see, ur like as nice as a guy can get! I mean, just the fact that ur willing to be with her and hear her version of the relationship even with the fact that she has a baby, shows you how you are..... think she may be taking u for granted man.... the idea of talking to her is great, you should go forth with it.
And if she says Yes and that nothing's wrong and yet it feels like she's not telling u something, u should retreat a little, u need to give her a lot of space and time to think about ur role in her life. If she doesn't miss you much in that time, sorry to say but it may not work out in the long run if that's the case. But if she DOES realize that life without u isn't the same, then you can sort things out....
Dude u can't force a relationship to work. So no, if she says ur going too slow, you can't just "speed it up" for her, cuz you'll get sick of doing that. Go at ur own pace dude.... but first, yes, talk to her.. tell her all that's on ur mind....
2007-01-18 13:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Praveen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you're crazy lol. But seriously, she is ready to be in a relationship and has a son, but you're not ready for this. Is it the fact that she has a child already? She may feel like she is waisting her time with you, So if you like her, accept her son as your own, and start acting like you really want to try.
2007-01-18 13:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by ebo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go with your first impression. You are right. And don't bother calling her, you've already left a messages and she didn't call back. People make time for what they want to pursue. You are not crazy. For some reason you doubt yourself when you shouldn't. Trust you.
2007-01-18 13:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by bluejasmine3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want anythig in life you have to go after it, so yes I believe if you care about her you need to call her and tell her. Relationships are not easy I feel sorry for you if this is your first one. Keep your had high and follow your heart.
2007-01-18 13:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by evilgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound as if you've known this girl that long, so I really wouldn't sweat it. But if you really want to know whether or not you're wasting your time, follow through with your plan and ask her to let you know where you stand with her....most importantly, follow her actions.....people are known to say one thing and do another, actions speak louder than words......
2007-01-18 13:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very mature and very cool!
2007-01-18 13:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋