what to think of my ex? HELP ME?

Question

I will try to summarize this up completly so you can understand. I met my ex about a year ago now we where together for 8 months it seemed longer because I fell for her the day I met her. Once we got together the relationship started off rocky she made changes and so did i so we were able to work things out. I broke up with her alot of times and each time she would take me back. Two months ago we broke up and we havent been together since. I guess you can say that we officially broke up a week after Christmas because thats when things changed. She told me that she wasnt inlove with me anymore which I thought was total BS. Her emotions changed over night so it was hard for me to accept it. Her friends dont like me and I know that she listens to them. ANyway she left for school on sunday its about an hour away since then she has called and we talk a little jus not about us. I think she still loves me but Im not sure. I dont want to ask her. SHould I ignore her or try 2 b a friend?

some of the things she did seemed to be more then I could bare thats y we broke up so frequently its like she wanted me to break up with her thats how she acted. last night she texted me and I asked her had she been missin me she said she didnt know then she asked if I missed her I told her she already knew that I did she said aww when I asked her again did she miss me she said she hadnt really thought about it "so I guess" I said ok thats fine and about and hour later she texted me again asking me what was I doing we had a small conversation. I dont know what she wants from me I want to go to see her but Im afraid she doesnt want to see me

Answer 1

i think you should just move on. You could try being her friend but 8 times out of 10 its not going to work like that....The relationship thing sounded rocky to begin with. Maybe she is trying to hold on to you in order to see where/how she can use you dude, I mean, if you told her that you miss her and all she says is, "i guess i miss you too", what kind of sense does that make? I think maybe eventually you'll get over her as time goes on.....Besides, with her being in school that is that far, who knows, she may be kind of seeing someone else and just havent come clean to you about it......If this is the case, she may be a little confused, may want the cake along with the icing but as you and i as men know, you cant have both!!!!!!

Answer 2

There are as many different ways to love someone as there are moments in time. Just because she cares about you as a person/friend and has some lingering longing/lust/emotion towards you, does NOT mean she really loves you or that you are meant to be together.
It is unlikely that her emotions "changed overnight"... it was probably a gradual change and the realization of it just took a long time coming.
I think, for your own sake, you need to put a stop to communication between you until you can both sort out your feelings. So many couples try so hard to retain the connection right away, without allowing a natural "cooling-off" period to deal with the stress and awkwardness of the transition. Tell her that you need a few months of total non-communication to deal with things until you two can be friends again. It will be easier and healthier for you both.

Answer 3

This relationship is toast! Sorry man...but why her? You keep on going back to the same woman after time and time again you have both proven you are not meant for each other.

Relationships take work, but it sounds like you two are not compatible. If you were you wouldn't need to change as much as you need to to keep the relationship going.

No biggie though! Its hard not to take this personally, but it just didn't work. Chalk it up to experience and move on to another girl who you don't fight with all the time.

Relationships don't need to suck! And her friends don't like you because she can't say no to you yet you two treat each other poorly. Be the bigger man and move on!

Answer 4

You should try to be her friend . If she's talking to you about other things , and not wanting to talk about your relationship, then she pro bally just wants a friend to talk to, not an intimate relationship. If you can't get over her,then just tell her that. She obviously has some kind of feelings for you. They just might not be the same ones that she has for you.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like she does care for you. But, not in the relationship type of way-don't let this get in the way. Be her friend, if that is only what she wants out of it....it's only fair for both of you. And, at least you didn't lose her completely.

Answer 6

You need to accept the fact that she does not love you.She was honest with you and told you that she does'nt love you.You are only hurting yourself by trying to tell yourself that she does love you.You will not even beable to be friend's with her until you accept the truth which is she does'nt love you.good luck.

Answer 7

Womens we are very emotional just try to be a friend for her.

Answer 8

try to be her friend. mabey it wasnt thta she listened to he friends but to her heart and she wa ssick of alway sbreaking up with u and getting back together, i would be done with u to. a girl can only take so much

Answer 9

Ich weiß nicht, ich Sie wofür machen kann. Sie scheinen ein armer Bastard zu sein. Aber wenn Sie mir sagen, wo das Mädchen ist, kann ich... gefallen Sie ihr meinen Weg.:-)

Answer 10

IF SHE GOT THE COURAGE TO TELL YOU SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE ,SHE DOESN'T,I'M SORRY ....BUT TRY TO MOVE ONE .IF SHE WANT SOMETHING MORE SHE WOULD LET YOU KNOW ,TAKE SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF .